Saturday, February 28, 2009

Top 10 list of ways to honor and love your wife in the day-to-day

1. Pray for her and ask her how you can help her grow in her individual relationship with God, including areas that don't directly benefit you.

2. Not all loving touch needs to lead to intercourse. Our wives need to know that there are times when we are holding them because we love them and not because we are looking forward to our own pleasure.

3. If she is trying to improve herself, take note and encourage her, but make sure you don't suggest that you'll love her more after she improves herself.

4. If you are going out, offer to run errands for her while you are out. If she is going out, ask if there are things you can do around the house while she is gone.

5. Encourage her time with other women, who understand what it means to be a woman, and can affirm her femininity in ways that only women can.

6. Let the things that matter to her matter to you. If she roots for a particular team, root with her. If she does cross-stitch, pick out designs that you'd like to see, and maybe even ask her to teach you how.

7. Let pleasing her be enough to please you. Do things pleasing to her because you love her and not just so she'll return the favor.

8. When she has a problem, realize that she may not be asking you to solve the problem but just to listen and let her know she's not facing it alone.

9. When she's troubled by something, even if you think it's nothing, remember that it is real to her and be supportive.

10. Give small gifts even when it's not her birthday. When you go to the store, pick up a rose. If she likes crafts, pick up some thread. It doesn't need to be big, but it says she was in your thoughts while you were apart.

How to Love Your Wife

When you are married, you truly do become one. If you do not act as one, then that is against the nature of marriage and it will be painful. The following is logical deduction of the husband's part of the equation, the equation being 100% + 100% = 100%. Please read all the way to the bottom and I am sure you will count yourself blessed.

Step 1. Love: First let’s preface this ‘How To’ with an understanding of Love. There is Love, the emotion, and there is Love, the action. “He who loves his wife loves himself”. This is the emotion. Most do not have to choose to love themselves, rather they have just grown quite attached to themselves and sincerely do not wish to do harm to themselves. In fact, they would do anything to avoid it. When Paul writes to love your wife in this way, he means that in every situation you should desire that no harm befall your wife.

Step 2. Here is the action, the command. “Love your wives”; give yourself up for her. The command to love means to do love. What would make others see love in what you do, that would make your wife feel love, is how you do love. In simplest form, bring her flowers and tell her, “I love you." That’s just a start though. You are also commanded to give yourself up for her. The obvious implication is that you should be willing to die for her. This is actually common. What is more difficult than dying? Give your life for her. In all you do, do it with the interests of your wife in mind.

Step 3. Forgiveness and Radiance: Have a heart for your wife. This again is the emotion of love. “Make her holy, cleansing her”. “Present her…without stain or wrinkle”. When your wife is in need of it, cleanse her; forgive her, when she acts against you. For example, you ask your wife to get you steak at the store and you get mad because she says that you eat too much red meat. Forgive and forget. Don’t allow yourself to harbor any bitterness and you will feel the love for your wife.

Step 4. The Head: Many people read this section first and stop. “Wives submit to your husbands” . And then they stop there. There is a whole other study for the wives. The implication in this passage is that if the man truly loves his wife (that’s the action and the emotion), the wife will gladly submit to the man.

Step 5. Application:
1) Don’t harbor bitterness and you will be happier.
2) Consider your wife’s best interests throughout the day and your wife will be happier.
3) A happy wife really is a happy husband.

Creditted to Anthony Delgado.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

The Role and Responsibilities of a Husband

1. To be a leader.

The husband is to be a prophet, priest and king to his wife. The husband is the leader and head of the household. As the leader and the head, men are called to have vision and to provide direction. Why is the man called to be the head? On the head, lie the eyes. The purpose of the eyes is to see far and near, to see ahead with vision. When God created the world, He created the man first and God gave man the responsibility of work to look after the garden and the animals. God left man with the accountability and command not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil before God created woman.

However, since sin entered the world through Adam, men began to fall away from God. Today, men are so busy working. They do not have time to pray. They do not have time to serve in the church. They do not have time to read the bible. They do not have time to provide spiritual food to their wives and children. How then is the man going to fulfil his role as the priest and king to his wife?

As the priest, the role is to lead the people of God into the presence of God. As the priest to your wife, your responsibility is to provide spiritual food and guidance to your wife, and to lead her into the spiritual presence of God.

A king always carries himself with dignity and authority. He is supposed to lead like the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit leads God's people. He does not drive or push the people to meet God's goals. The king rules the kingdom wisely and reigns among his people.

2. To love his wife.

A wise and loving king will put his kingdom and people first before himself. Similarly, as the husband, you are to lead your wife and family but not by force or by thumbing your wife down. A wise and loving husband will govern his household wisely and reigns. His family will respect him and obey him as he puts his wife and family first before himself. A husband must love his wife, be willing to give of yourself and lay down your life for your wife.

Every time we backslide or sin, we grieve God. But He never gives up on us. He saddles us with His love and lovingly holds us in His arms. God remains faithful even if we are unfaithful. In every way, the husband is to be like Jesus who loves the church and gave of Himself for our salvation. In the same way, the husband is to love his wife and give of himself to her.

Monday, February 23, 2009

5 Ways to Love The Woman You Married

Listen to Your Wife

Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your na├»ve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions. That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

Appreciate Your Wife

When was the last time you told your wife how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does? A woman puts out a lot more energy into the home and family affairs than the husband does. Sometimes she may feel as if she is the only one doing anything around the house and this is when she starts getting bossy and naggy with you.

I encourage you husband’s to start appreciating your wife for all that she does for you and the family. Marriage can be such a beautiful relationship when you show your love with wisdom. Stop just for a moment, and mediate on the beautiful woman you married. Be thankful that God gave her to you. Realize how blessed you are to have this woman as your wife and know that she is your right arm and sometimes your left arm too. Make your wife feel good about who she is and all that she does.

Please Your Wife Sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sex is a one sided selfish act that is mostly enjoyed by the husband. Women need a bit more pampering and nurturing in the bedroom. I mean, what does a woman get out of five minutes of copulation? Okay, so it takes a little bit more time to please your wife and you’re tired, so make love in the afternoon or early morning. You do have options. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. For instance, she isn’t the only one who eats dinner you know. Maybe she would like some help chopping up vegetables, setting the table, or loading the dishwasher. She probably has mowed your yard for you, so give back in return and do some extra things for her around the house. She will be pleased that you did.

Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman. Did you know that your wife becomes bossy and domineering because you are not listening to her? She feels unloved and unneeded by you when you take her for granted instead of appreciating all that she does for you and the family? A woman needs to be valued by her husband. This gives her more love to give to you.

If you want a humble and kind wife then don’t behave as if you are better than her. Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. Don’t be afraid to let down your guard once in awhile. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, humble and kind wife, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. She needs to be her own person. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence. Be a good example and she will want to surrender her love to that example. Love your wife with wisdom.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Tell Your Wife - You are My Best Friend

Women find their meaning in relationships and relating to others. That includes feelings of love, joy, being connected, and celebrating life. As a husband, you can learn much from your wife about a strong, loving connection.

A fine dinner and night on the town are wonderful ways to connect with your wife. But a romantic love letter -- ah, a personal love letter to your spouse is something that is kept and treasured. A life coach once told me that she worked as a chaplain with retired, rich people in their eighties who needed to move into a retirement community. They had to sell their large homes, sell or give away most of their material goods to move into a small one-room apartment. Guess what things they kept? Photos and letters. Personal memories of the best times that life had to offer. Precious treasures that money can not buy.

Encouraging words carry tremendous, positive energy that continues to touch the hearts and minds of people decades after they are said or written. It's been said a handwritten love letter carries its own power because it is personal -- written by the hand of one person who loves another.

So, if you desire to build an even stronger married relationship with your wife, tell her exactly what she is longing to her, that she is your best friend. Do you want to know how to write a love letter that will bring a smile to her lips, a tear to her eye and a prayer of gratitude that she is married to you?

Start with a notepad and jot down a few ideas of what your wife means to you. Does she have a sense of humor or a smile that knocks your socks off? How is she beautiful? How does it feel to you when she touches you and you touch her? How do you feel when she does all of those little things that save you time and aggravation? How do you feel when you go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning seeing her next to you, day after day, month after month, year after year?

Once you have those thoughts on paper, let them sit for a few hours or a day. Then, go back and circle or highlight the phrases and sentences that mean the most to you. If you feel a tug at your heart strings, or a tear forms in your eye, that is truth ringing through. Next, get a nice greeting card or sheet of stationery and write out your love letter. Here is an example.

My dearest Mary, You are my best friend. Every day when I wake up, I look over and see you sleeping securely and safely next to me. I am grateful for your (here is where you list the phrases from your notepad - smile, generous spirit, thoughtfulness to me and the children, etc.) I am so glad I married you. Today and always. Love, (your name.) Let your wife know how much you treasure her.

Let you and your wife keep living in a happy marriage...Descripe 101% your meaningfull love to her...Yor wife@your best friend.

Friday, February 20, 2009

When Your Wife is Ill and Romance Ain't Happening

When your wife is chronically ill it can be hard for her to think "romance." She may be in a great deal of physical pain or also suffer from side effects of the illness or medications, such as weight gain or loss, a "puffy prednisone," or even feeling sick to her stomach. She may also be dealing with the loss of her career and dealing with grief.

Be assured that you are not alone. Nearly 1 in 2 people in the USA live with a chronic illness and so many marriages are impacted. Unfortunately, nearly seventy-five percent of them end in divorce when an illness is that "third party" in the marriage.

Is it possible for you to make a difference and let her know you want to romance her? Of course! With a few simple ideas, you can get the spark back into your marriage.

Go ahead and buy her that box of chocolate, but if she is watching her weight, don't ruin her diet. Instead find some Russell Stover's sugar free chocolate at your local Target or even the pharmacy. Chocolate, along with coconut, pecans, and many more, all contain phenyl ethylamine, a chemical that produces the feeling of "being in love." Good place to start, don't you think?

Be affectionate by simply reaching for her hand. Yes, I know you're hoping for more than holding hands, but if she's in physical pain it's going to take some real romance on your part to distract her from pain and get her refocused on you. Rub her back (gently!), cuddle, snuggle and don't pressure her for more. Pretty soon she'll be reaching out to you.

Pour out your heart about how much you admire the strength she shows in the darkest moments. Let her know you know that living with illness is difficult and that you are blessed to be married to someone with so much character and joy. Remind her that you love her and are in it "in sickness and in health."

Pamper her by purchasing her something that she wouldn't splurge on for herself. Let her know you are listening to her by purchasing a CD that she says has one of her favorite news songs on it. Buy her a down comforter for a cozier bed. Brainstorm about item that she could enjoy when she isn't feeling well.

Schedule a retreat for her at home. Find care for the kids, bring home dinner, and don't say anything when you come home at 6 p.m. and she's still in her pajamas.

Write little notes that she can find any time. And don't forget to say thanks too! For example, if she does laundry, put a note in your own sock drawer to find when she puts them away that says, "I know laundry isn't easy for you to do. Every time I find clean socks here I am reminded how much you love me and how blessed I am."

Being romantic at home isn't hard. Purchase a fondue pot and tell her that you will bring home something to dip every Wednesday night so you two can sit and have a conversation over candlelight (and cheese, chocolate, marshmallow, etc.)

Are you having troubles starting up some romantic conversations? Buy a book about conversation starters or fill a jar with topics. Do a search online for "romantic conversation starters."

Don't forget to make a few changes in the bedroom to spark some romance. As silly as it sounds, candles, roses, and a great play list on your ipod tells her that you cared enough to set the mood for her.

It's no surprise that women are complicated beings and rarely can you read her mind to know exactly what she needs and when she needs it. So be sure to just ask her outright. "What is on your mind most these days? How can I help you around the house more? What can I do to communicate just how much I love you?"

The good news is that perfection is not a requirement. Just by making the effort to increase the romance in the relationship will score you some big points. And she may not let you even have a chance to finish reading that book on romancing your wife, because if she sees you reading it, your willingness to read it may be all the romance she needs. One last piece of advice, doing the dishes or the laundry really can be the best way to your wife's heart. This is all the answer, How to love my wife.


Wednesday, February 18, 2009

KEEP YOUR LOVE ALIVE BY PRACTICING DEMONSTRATIONS OF LOVE EVERYDAY! CHOOSE AT LEAST ONE TIP EVERYDAY. (THE MORE THE BETTER)!

You knew that she was special the moment you first laid eyes on her. It was a dream come true the day she said, "Yes!" Now that she belongs to you, it's easy to let your love life play second fiddle to your responsibilities. Not that you want it that way, it's just that life is so demanding. There is great news. By just taking a few moments of each day to fulfil the needs of your marriage, you and your wife can feel like newlyweds for life!

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

101. JUST SAY THE WORDS

Tell your wife everyday, several times a day, that you love her.

100. TELL THE WORLD HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER

Put a bumper sticker on your vehicle that says, "I Love My Wife," or put up a sign in your yard that says, "The Prettiest Lady In the World Lives Here."

99. GRAB A KISS WHILE WAITING

If you're at a stop light or in a long line at the drive-through, pull your wife close and grab a kiss. (Remember, at least six seconds, although you may want to go longer)!

98. NIBBLE

Pull your wife close and nibble her ear or lips. This will give her cold chills!

97. SPEAK IN YOUR OWN CODE

Create a secret code word for something that only the two of you know, and say it openly in public! It's like having your own secret language!

96. MAKE A LIST OF LOVE

Make a list of every reason that you can think of that you love your wife and post it on the refrigerator.

95. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM

Turn on some romantic music, hold your wife close, and slow dance right in your own bedroom. Suggest lighting candles and dancing in the nude.

94. DON'T BE A WORKAHOLIC!

(Or any other kind of "holic" for that matter). Make sure there is always time to spend with your wife and family. In a few years, the money won't matter anyway, and you just have one chance at life. Make the most of it with the ones you love; don't live with regrets.

93. BUY A SEASON PASS

Buy season passes to the zoo or a museum. The cost will only come once a year, so if you're a little tight on money at some point, you will always have a place to go that is fun and paid for.

92. PLANT A GARDEN TOGETHER

Whether it's a flower garden or a vegetable garden, growing things takes lots of work. Why not do it together? This will cut the work in half, and will be a great way to enjoy each other's company. Then when it's all said and done, enjoy the fruits of your labor by picking and eating the veggies, or decorating the table with the lovely flowers.

91. GET RID OF IRRITATING HABITS

Do you have a habit that bugs your wife?Try to take the necessary measures to stop it.

90. BE THE CHEF

Cook up a romantic meal for your wife. Even if you're not a cook, you can find something that you can make. Just follow the box or cookbook directions. Macaroni and cheese can be romantic if it comes from your heart. Just set the table with some candles and turn out the lights. What could be more romantic than eating macaroni and cheese in candlelight with an adoring husband who's tried so hard to please you?

89. BE HER BEST FRIEND

Be there for your wife at all times and in every situation. Let her feel confident enough to share anything with you.

88. DON'T PUSH SEX

Be considerate in the fact that sometimes your wife just won't feel like having sex. Remember, she's not rejecting you as a person if she turns you down. However, if she says no too often, try talking to her and making sure that she's not feeling insecure.

87. PROTECT HER

Look after your wife making sure that she's not in any situations where she could be harmed physically or emotionally. This even includes verbal abuse from cantankerous family members. Always be quick to stand up for her in any given situation.

86. SHOW HUMILITY

Don't get a big head and think that you can't be touched with a ten foot pole. You wife wants you to be confident, but don't think that you're the master of all.

85. HELP HER UNDRESS

Help your wife with the buttons or snaps. Caress her gently as you help remove her clothing. Do it slowly, piece by piece.

84. START A HOBBY TOGETHER

Find a hobby that you both enjoy, such as horse back riding or tennis. Do it together as often as you can to help stay close.

83. GO ON A SECOND HONEYMOON

Remember how special your honeymoon was? Take another one, and try to make it better than the first.

82. HAVE YOUR PHOTO MADE WITH HER

Go have a professional, up-to-date photo done of the two of you. Try romantic scenes such as a park or waterfall.

81. GIVE HER A NICKNAME

Give her your own special name, like "Beautiful" or "Angel."

80. MAKE A JOURNAL

Start on her birthday or Christmas and write a love note or something special to your wife everyday for a year. At the end of the year, present it to her as a gift.

79. MAKE HER LATE FOR BREAKFAST

Wake her up by kissing her! Not only will this be a pleasant way to wake up, but she just might keep you there through breakfast!

78. REMINISCE YOUR WEDDING NIGHT

Women like to remember special times. Bring up your wedding night and how it felt to have sex for the first time. Talk about your high school graduations or the day your kids were born.

77. BE DEVOTED TO HER HAPPINESS

Do what you can to make your wife happy. You don't have to buy her the most expensive things or "spoil" her rotten, (though that's OK too). Usually a little goes a long way for most wives, and just giving a little attention now and then will make her feel loved and appreciated. You will find that if she's happy, she'll respond better to your needs as well.

76. CHERISH HER DIFFERENCES

Your wife has a lot different make up than you and it shows in more ways than one. Not only in her body, but the way she thinks, or even the way she receives love are naturally just "different." Cherish these differences and don't try to change her.

75. DON'T BELITTLE HER OPINIONS

If your wife has an opinion or an idea, thank her, and let her know that her thoughts are valuable. Don't act like her ideas are unintelligent or crazy.

74. DON'T RUSH SEX

While the two of you are in the middle of the wonderful marital gift of sex, be careful not to rush it. Let your wife know that you're loving her, not just the moment.

73. SET UP A SLIDE SHOW

Pick out special photo memories from the time that you were dating to the present. Create a slide show with music. This is something that you can do together and can help keep you close.

72. LOOK OUT FOR THE FUTURE

You plan on being together for life, right? Make sure that your future will be secure. Set up a retirement fund. Also, although no one wants to think about it, we all will die one day. Take out a life insurance policy to make sure that if the worst should happen, your family will be cared for.

71. TAKE A WALK

Go for a long walk through a park or take a moonlight stroll. Hold hands while you walk.

70. TAKE A JACUZZI BATH TOGETHER

Jacuzzis are one of the world's most romantic inventions! Some use it for stress, some use it for... If you don't have a jacuzzi tub, check into a hotel that has a tub for two, and spend the night.

69. FLIRT WITH YOUR WIFE

Don't stop flirting with her just because you're married. Do it now more than ever to keep that spark! Wink at her from across the room, whistle at her, or give her "that look." Watch her cheeks turn rosy.

68. PASS GAS IN THE BATHROOM

If you must pass gas, go to the bathroom. Don't do it to annoy her, or burp at the table. It's not as funny as you think it is - as a matter of fact, it's not funny at all.

67. BE KIND AND COURTEOUS

Treat your wife as you would expect her to treat you. Treat her with dignity and be courteous at all times.

66. ENCOURAGE HER TO FOLLOW HER DREAMS

If your wife has dreams and goals that she would like to accomplish, be her best cheer leader. Support her as she endeavors to reach them.

65. SHOP FOR A GIFT TO SHARE

Go shopping for something that you'll both enjoy together. Get a great CD, massage oils, or anything that you'll both like.

64. BE VERBAL WHEN MAKING LOVE

When making love, describe aloud and in detail each thing that you do and how it makes you feel. This will greatly arouse your wife, as well as let her know that she's meeting your needs.

63. TAKE HER ON WEEKEND TRIPS

Take your wife to a romantic resort for the weekend. If your budget's a little tight, consider checking into a hotel, even if it's local, so the two of you can get away from the familiar and just enjoy each other.

62. DON'T COMPARE HER IN A NEGATIVE WAY

Don't say things like, "You gripe just like your Aunt Thelma." Comparison often hurts self esteem.

61. HELP OUT WHEN SHE DON'T FEEL WELL

If your wife is sick or has just had a bad day, try helping with her household duties and with the kids. Make sure she can get plenty of rest.

60. FIND OUT WHAT HER NEEDS ARE SEXUALLY

Your wife's sexual needs sometimes vary a great deal from yours. Find out how and where she likes to be touched, and what she expects from sex, and try to fill her needs.

59. PROVIDE SECURITY

Let your wife feel secure in your love without worrying if you will still love her from day to day.

58. BE CLEAN AND NEAT

Keep yourself groomed, clean, and smelling nice.

57. BE THE LEADER OF YOUR HOME

Many wives don't want their husbands to be the leader because they dominate. But if you're a good leader, you will also serve. Home leadership is meant to be the husbands role, and if you do it right, it will take an unnecessary load off of your wife. Set reasonable guidelines and goals for your household. Ask your wife for advice too. Sometimes a woman can see things not only in the practical sense, like most men do, but she also uses her heart to even things out.

56. BE FORGIVING

If your wife should do something that offends you, be quick to forgive. Holding hard feelings can ruin a marriage. Let her know in a heartfelt way how she made you feel, then let it go.

55. LISTEN

Sometimes wives just need to talk - about anything. Show interest and listen to her when she talks. If she's upset, show concern. If she's happy, laugh with her. Try to pick up on clues that she may be dropping in her conversation to let you know her needs.

54. GIVE HER LOTS OF CUDDLE TIME

Wives like to be cuddled and kissed without sex sometimes. Try sitting in front of a campfire or lay under the stars and just take your time.

53. BE FAITHFUL

Always make sure that you're faithful to your wife in every angle. Keep your body, your eyes, and your thoughts only for her. If you are facing any temptation, remove yourself from the source. Be open with your wife about your needs so that she can be the one to fill them.

52. DON'T CORRECT HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS

If you feel that your wife has got a little out of line or has done something that you disapprove of, it's OK to talk it over with her in private, but never jump her in front of others; especially your children. Make sure that even if you're firm, that you're loving.

51. DON'T TEASE HER TOO MUCH

It's OK to tease now and then, but try to keep it at a minimum. Don't excessively tease her in front of others, and never tease in a degrading fashion.

50. LET HER CRY

Every woman needs a good cry now and then; sometimes she can tell you why, and sometimes she can't. Just make sure you don't get irritated at her or make fun of her. This will just make everything worse. Take her in your arms and hold her until everything is better. This may be the very thing she needed anyway.

49. TELL HER YOU NEED HER

Let her know that your life just wouldn't be complete if you didn't have her. Tell her that you not only want her in your life, but that you need her.

48. PROVIDE FOR HER

Do your best to provide for your wife and family. You don't have to buy a castle, just make sure it's nice and comfortable and there's food on the table. If your wife chooses to help out that's OK, but it is your place to provide, so don't expect her to fill that role.

47. RESPECT HER

Showing respect is another important factor in a marriage. Don't degrade her, yell at her, or misuse her.

46. WORSHIP TOGETHER

Find time to worship and pray with your wife. Our lives our made up of three parts. Body, mind, and spirit. You need to connect in all three ways to really be close.

45. RENEW YOUR WEDDING VOWS

Although we know that the first vows are good for life, still, taking your wife to a chapel on your anniversary, or any day, and renewing your vows will let her know that you'd marry her all over again.

44. BE HONEST

NEVER EVER lie to your wife, even if it seems harmless. Trust is one of the most important factors in a marriage - don't break it!

43. LEAVE LOVE NOTES IN UNEXPECTED PLACES

Try leaving love notes in odd places that she'll be sure to see, such as under windshield wipers, inside the refrigerator, inside a CD case or even on toilet paper! A good example would be to put one on the light switch that says, "You turn me on."

42. DONT ARGUE OVER FINANCES

If money gets tight, be very careful not to argue or shift blame. Together, and in a business-like fashion, explore ways that you can pay off your debts. If things spin out of control, consider financial counseling. Your marriage is worth more than money.

41. DON'T MENTION HER WEIGHT

No matter what size your wife may be, bringing up her weight is definitely a no no.

40. GIVE HER A NIGHT OFF

Watch the kids while she heads out to shop for awhile. Throw in a few extra bucks so that she can buy herself something special.

39. PLAY A KISSING GAME

Lock lips and see who can hold out the longest!

38. TAKE HER TO A ROMANTIC PLAY

Skip the movie and head out to a theatrical play. If there's not a good romantic one showing, find one with some good, clean humor.

37. PICK HER FLOWERS

OK, you've sent her flowers, but why not pick some wildflowers yourself? Stop the car and pick some by the roadside, then gently tuck one behind your wife's ear and kiss her neck.

36. WASH THE DISHES FOR HER

You don't have to clean the whole house, but just doing one chore such as the dishes once in a while, or at least cleaning up after yourself, will help her out a lot.

35. CALL IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE

Don't make your wife worry about you, or let dinner get cold. Take out 5 minutes to phone her if you see you're going to be late.

34. PLAY A GAME TOGETHER

Bring out the board games or play a game of tennis. Playing a game together can help keep the two of you close. If she beats you, admit it. Don't say, "Oh, I just let you win."

33. GIVE HER A MASSAGE

Grab the oil and lotion, then grab your wife! Give her a full body massage and help her relax. (Try to at least get past her shoulders before moving on to "other things)."

32. WRITE HER A LOVE POEM

Put your romantic thoughts into a rhyme that your wife will cherish forever! Not a poet? Just write down your feelings the best you can, she'll love it!

31. SACRIFICE FOR HER

Put aside something that you want so that you can give to your wife. Usually, this is what wives do. They'll put aside their own needs to make sure their family gets everything they need first. Make sure your wife is taking good care of herself too.

30. LOOK INTO HER EYES

While talking to or hugging your wife, look her straight in the eyes while cupping her face in your hand. She may feel shy and try to look away, but don't confuse this in thinking she don't like it. Gently insist she look at you, then slowly lean down and kiss her. (For at least 6 seconds).

29. ADMIT IT WHEN YOU'RE WRONG

If you are in the wrong, admit it. Don't pass it off like it's no big deal, or make excuses for yourself.

28. SHOW PATIENCE DURING HORMONAL TIMES

If your wife gets a little hard to live with during certain times of the month, be patient. This is especially important too if she's pregnant or a new mother. She can't control her emotions very well during these times, and will need your support.

27. TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER

Here's a way to get clean and have fun at the same time! Jump in the shower, mesh together, and do a lot of kissing! Be sensitive if your wife feels insecure, and make sure that you reassure her often.

26. DON'T BE NEGATIVE

Don't go around griping or nitpicking the things your wife does or don't do. Try to be more pleasant. Look on the positive side of things. When your negative, it makes everything look worse than it really is.

25. FINISH HOME IMPROVEMENT PROJECTS

Too many times husbands work so hard all week that they don't feel like keeping up the repairs at home. This is understandable, but remember, it often makes your wife's work harder too. If you could work on things for just awhile, and aim to finish at least one project per month, it could make your whole household run smoother.

24. ALWAYS KISS HER GOODNIGHT

Never even close your eyes at night until you've kissed your wife goodnight. (For at least 6 seconds).

23. DON'T FORGET SPECIAL OCCASIONS

Put it on your phone schedule, hang a calendar in your vehicle, do what you must, but DON'T forget your anniversary, her birthday, or Valentine's Day!

22. BUY HER A FEMININE GIFT

Buy your wife a gift that will make her feel feminine, like her favorite perfume, or a pretty night gown.

21. COMPLIMENT HER

Everyone needs a compliment now and then, but many wives need a little extra reassurance to make sure that she's still special in your eyes. A compliment won't cost you anything, but for your wife, it could be priceless!

20. TAKE CARE OF THE CARS

Make sure that your vehicles are in tip top shape at all times so your wife isn't left stranded. Don't expect her to go to the dirty garages to get the oil changed and repairs done, do them yourself, or take them in for her.

19. DON'T HIDE ANYTHING FROM YOUR WIFE

Be open and honest with your wife about everything. Keep an open line of communication between the two of you at all times. Keeping things from her, even small things, can hurt a relationship. If she should find out from another source, she would feel hurt and disappointed that you didn't feel like you could share with her. This could ultimately damage her trust in you as well.

18. LEAVE THE STRESS OF WORK AT WORK

I'm not saying that you can't talk to your wife about your job or the things that bother you. I'm saying that if you've had a bad day, don't take it out on your wife and family. It's easy to be grumpy after a long day of work. Don't snap at the people who love you. If you need to vent your frustrations, talk them out with your wife. She'll be glad to lend an ear if you need to talk.

17. SAY YOU'RE SORRY

You're not too macho to say, "I'm sorry" if you're in the wrong. In fact you'll be a much bigger man if you do.

16. TAKE HER ON A SURPRISE DATE

Secretly arrange for someone to watch your children, if you have them, then surprise your wife by taking her out for a night that she'll not soon forget!

15. PRAISE HER TO HER FACE

Tell your wife that you appreciate all that she does and the love that she shows to you.

14. PRIASE HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS

Let your wife hear you brag on her while you're talking to others. She may blush or say something back, but secretly she's feeling proud that you're her man.

13. CARESS HER

Gently caress your wife's hair with your hand or her face with your lips. She loves to feel your touch.

12. PUT YOUR ARM AROUND HER

Put your arm around your wife while she's sitting next to you or while walking side by side.

11. HAVE FLOWERS DELIVERED TO HER

Take some time out of your lunch break to swing by the flower shop. Have the florist deliver her flowers to your home or at her place of work, or deliver them yourself!

10. WHISPER IN HER EAR

Get close to your wife and whisper those sweet words of love in her ear. Try whispering something about your private love life in the middle of a public place and watch her blush!

9. COMMUNICATE WITH HER

Your wife wants in on your life. Tell her about your day or even your hopes and dreams for the future. Talk about the kids, or whatever happens to come to mind. Just communicate!

8. DEDICATE A SONG TO HER

Call your local radio station and have them to play a song for your sweetie! Tell them why you love her and her name, and have them to repeat it over the air!

7. REENACT YOUR FIRST DATE

Tell your wife that you're taking her out. Tell her that you think it would be fun to do everything just like you did on your first date then try to reenact it! The bonus is that you won't have to take her home to her father, you can take her home with you!

6. LEAVE HER A TIP

You'll leave the waitress a tip, but what about the lady who is there to wait on you 24/7? Surprise her as she clears the supper table; leave her a few dollars to show your appreciation.

5. MAIL HER A LETTER

E-mail has its place, but for a woman, getting a letter in the mailbox addressed to her from her hubby...well now, that's just too romantic!

4. HOLD HANDS

Wives feel special when their husbands reach over and take their hand. It's just a simple gesture, but it goes a long way.

3. KISS HER FOR AT LEAST 6 SECONDS

Forget the little peck on your way out the door in the morning. Give her a kiss that will stay with her all day! Kissing for at least six seconds doesn't take that long but it makes for a much more meaningful kiss.

2. DON'T TEASE HER FOR PRIMPING

She wants to look nice for you! If you constantly go on about how much time she spends on her hair or manicures, she may take it that you don't appreciate her femininity or her effort to look pretty. Let her know she's beautiful when she fixes herself up.

1. LEAVE CANDY FOR HER TO FIND

And I'm not talking about a 3 Musketeers bar. (Unless that's what she likes). Buy a pretty box of chocolates. Leave them in her car or some other place that she's sure to find them. Tuck a little "I love you" note inside to increase the effect.