Healthy Tips for Steady Love Relationship, "Husband, Love Your Wife, Wife, Love Your Husband..."

Take note of these 3 phrases:

[1] "True love is long-suffering, patient, understanding and faithful in the awakening of the other's love'

[2] "True love knows no barriers, no challenges, no flaws and it is always forgive and forget...."

[3] "Give your heart to only one, but your smiles to everyone.'

This should be expected between husband and wife partnerships. To foster a relationship and to maintain it needs skills to do so. It is of quite importance that one should stay faithful to each other. It is a comforting feeling that the presence of children will always cement relationships among parents.

One should not regret for a choice one made in marriage. It has been fated that the two of them should come together to produce new offspring.. Marriage isn't a buying up a suit and after feeling bored with it, throw it away and buy another new one. If you have made the vow or choice, never regret. It is a decision made to last or else this world will be in chaos.

Knowing that a suit can get faded and torn, it is the same for all ladies and gentlemen. No one will stay at 18 forever and no one is wise enough to pick a perfect choice when infatuated. Love isn't built on beds of roses, it is not just milk and honey... or darling for ever, agreed? The coming together of 2 person that comes from 2 different worlds are facing many realities of life when they start to live together.

[4] 'Tolerance, patience, persistence, interdependence, confidence, trust, open-ness, win/win situations, are attributes that can build a relationship, and the question is 'Are you willing to make it work?'

My mentor used to joke.... in this love thing, one always start from a stranger to friend and then to lovers, but after marriage, it becomes the opposite. Now it is from lovers, cold friends, then to strangers...eventually leading to breakups. Why is it always like this? What has gone wrong? When one is in love, each can sacrifice almost anything to gain each other's love, but now it is just the opposite.

Familiarity breeds contempt? Bored? Discovered something? Unwilling to change? Too sophisticated? Stagnant/stale relationship? Language barrier? Body barrier? One is lagging behind? Discrimination? Too attached? Too much dependence? No money, no talk? Someone is more sexy? 3rd party? Love problems? Health problems? Lack of sexual desire? No comfort? Too unresponsive? Too naive? No electricity? His faults? His bad character? No brains? the lists will be too long to write...

I have come across many women in emotional distress, and never even dared to talk about their failure in their love-life and family, about love fading, being ,deceived, about being jilted, about being left cold, about being sandwiched in between another mistress, losing interest in sex life and poor health. Most of these women suffered in silence and seemed to hoard all these negatives in their heart and mind. These women are sometimes so stressed that they released their angers on their own children. Just imagine, hurting physically or hurling hurting remarks to young children, their own kids and regretting later. We call that child abuse, this isn't a new issue, right?

How much more pitiful sights should one hear or see? How distressing it is to see these women being provoked and couldn't control their anger and hate? The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, heard this phrase? The young will be indirectly influenced by bad temper and be ill-treated with abusive, rough meaningless words. That is why the morals of modern world have corrupted due to the improper bringing up of distressed mothers and maids or amahs their children grew up with. Instead of their own mothers, they grow up with Indonesian maids or amahs, and eventually they talk and think like one...

Emotional balance for a wife or a mother is too important in the structuring or influencing of our next generations. So, it again goes back to a happy family where the parents should be in good terms with each other. Parents should show good examples and lead the way to true happiness. Separations or divorces will be too hurting to each and everyone of the concerned.

[5] Treat this relationship as a journey instead of a destination.... All of us starts from strangers budding to friends, then to lovers, then to parents, grandparents and even lying beside each other when cold and lifeless.......companions for this life and eternity. Ever thought of it? It has been fated as I have said.

I came across an old wise man who told me this. "Husband and Wife is one life!" This only phrase awaken in me a reality, an understanding that I thought never would be. This awakening becomes my answer to my problems... I came to understand that 'his is also mine, mine is also his....', his problems are also mine, his wrongs or rights are also mine. There is no escape. Never think of fair or not fair....

[6] Yes, there is no escape on fair or not fair, or who is doing the lions share of work or anything..... Another wise old man told me too that if one demands justice in this topic of you love me, so I love you, you give, so I also give; you work, so I work.....there will never be any peace. Where is JUSTICE? Justice cannot be applied in 'male or female equal rights!' The more you fight, the more hurt it will bring.... the more sufferings will be there...

This husband and wife's love is a selfish love, but without it, there will be chaos. A perfect love between spouses will be proven when and where no third party can intrude or go in between them. An imperfect love will allow a third party to interrupt or is that an excuse for some? .

[7] The power of love and sex should never be underestimated. It has moved mountains and created histories of countless victories and failures. Many heroes still fall onto the feet of beauties, losing fame, families and failing their missions. Too many heroes and heroines are attracted by outer beauty, not inner beauty. Too many heroes and heroines preferred to be lured into the fantasies and wonders of forbidden love. The forbidden fruits too delicious to avoid. What can we do? Samson the strongest man fell to ruins too. He regretted and said. "A night's sensual pleasure is not worth a lifetime's imprisonment and death was the punishment!" It wasn't just a story.

Who are we to say that they are wrong? Who are we to say that they shouldn't or couldn't do this or that? But it has been written in the 10 commandments that we shouldn't commit adultery. Not the bible only, but wise teachings too. A solid marriage is only solid when both partners agreed to keep it as an eternal bond, otherwise separation is too easy. And how many people are really willing to work hard to keep the marriage? How many people are patient enough to wait in the awakening of the other's love?

[8] Keeping in mind that all humans have weaknesses. To err is human, to forgive is divine. To make mistakes or not to... sometimes this passion or love thing is too complicated to explain or express.. The efforts put into untangling or disconnecting an affair or forbidden love needs tremendous strong will and determinations..... but for the sake of family happiness and togetherness, all problems should be solved. For the sake of LOVE, for the sake of the children and our parents too.

Article from: Lucy Wong Moi

Men, If You're Doing This, It Will Push Your Wife Into Another Man's Arms Every Time

You can deeply love your wife...

To spend the rest of your life with her can be your greatest desire...

But, if you possess one certain characteristic, you can be assured that two things will happen:

1. Your wife will first check out emotionally

2. Your wife will then leave you for another partner (that she's either already found or will find)

Would you like to know what this one characteristic is so you can avoid it? Yes?

Here it is... Wait... Maybe it's better that you discover it for yourself in the following...

Do you frequently wonder what your wife's true feelings are towards you?

Are you always asking her if she loves you?

And, if she does say that she loves you, do you often doubt that she really means it in her heart?

What about phone calls or letters that she receives? Is it really important to you to know who they are from and what was said?

Do you secretly question if your wife is really committed and true to you?

Are you one who likes lots of reassurance from your wife that everything in your marriage relationship is ok?

Maybe, you want constant confirmation from your wife that she'll always be with you and will never leave you?

And, if something does go wrong in the marriage relationship, do you automatically start wondering if it's over with and thinking that there's no hope?

Stop! Have you already picked up on what the characteristic is?

Here it is in a word...

INSECURITY

And, the bad news is that insecurity never runs by itself...it always drags along its close cousins of CONTROLLING, NEGATIVITY, and SUSPICION.

The insecure man tries to "control" his wife - although he rarely realizes it - even as he interprets everything about her with "suspicion" and injects "negativity" into everything she does.

That's why I can assert that an insecure man's wife will eventually check out emotionally after which she will physically depart the marriage relationship.

It's a fact...the insecure man IS losing his wife. The only question is how long it will be before she's gone.

You see, a husband's continual insecurity wears on his wife. It grates on her nerves. It emotionally drains her.

See, with all of life's bombardments, one has to work at keeping themselves emotionally healthy. But, when you also have to be an "emotional support system" for another person, it quickly becomes too much...too draining.

At the start of the relationship, although a wife may find it irksome that her husband needs constant reassuring, she'll go ahead and give it to him. But, she quickly reaches a state where she's given out all of her reassurance and she has no reassurance left for herself.

Even worse, she's not getting the reassurance from her husband that she craves... She's always giving out reassurance but never getting anything back in return.

This wife quickly tires of having to constantly reassure an insecure husband. She tires of giving. She tires of trying.

On one hand, she DREAMS of being with a man who causes her to feel alive and exhilarated. On the other hand, she LIVES with a husband whose nagging insecurity leaves her feeling drained and exhausted.

And so, a wife who is married to an insecure man goes through a progression:

1. She starts to view her husband as UNATTRACTIVE. (And the husband starts complaining that his wife's desire for sex is declining.)

2. She progresses to resenting her husband's WEAKNESS. (And the husband becomes even more unhappy because his wife won't hardly have sex at all now.)

3. Finally, she reaches the stage where she literally HATES her husband. (And the husband is really unhappy now because he and his wife virtually never have sex anymore.)

These three steps are the wife's "checking out emotionally" phase that I referred to at the beginning.

And, once she's completed this process of "checking out", she WILL leave. She will leave as a matter of SELF-PRESERVATION - as a matter of protecting her sanity, dignity, and peace-of-mind.

Bottom line, it is a foolish man who expects his wife to understand, support, and hang around to be tormented by his insecurity.

Article From: NymphomaniacWife

The Path to Forever: Intimacy and a Lasting Marriage

For a marriage to survive and last until that dreamy "forever," intimacy must exist between the couple. What is intimacy anyway? This just does not pertain to the act of making love, but fulfilling each other's emotional needs.

It entails enlightening conversations in between kisses and caresses. A lot of marriage counselors chalk up the longevity of a marriage to how intimate the couple is.

Here are some ways how to achieve that intimacy for an ideal, almost-perfect marriage:

1. All work and no intimacy make a dull couple. It is a given that after a crazy day at the office, the husband and wife both feel exhausted. But they must not let it get in the way of their relationship. They must allow for some quality time in and out of their love bed.

2. The husband must give what his wife wants: quality talk time. Wives want to talk things out and express what is inside their hearts. The husband must grant her that as this is one way to achieve emotional intimacy.

3. The couple must still exert an effort to look attractive. It does not mean that both must be “dressed up” all the time. But married couples must still try their best to look nice for their partners. This is one of the ways to start up the intimacy.

4. The couple must schedule dates. Dating must not end at marriage. In fact, both should set a time to go out and have fun, just like before.

5. Husband and wife must continually unleash their romantic side. Kisses, hugs, flowers, holding hands, stolen smacks...’the works’ - they do magic in a relationship.

6. Surprises are nice. Sweet surprises always lead to intimacy. If the couple knows when to pull off these incredibly romantic stints, then that's a surefire way to attain a divorce-proof relationship.

7. Solving a problem before it gets blown out of proportion is important. Intimacy loses its appeal once it gets "infected" by those conflicts that cripple the relationship. Conflicts should let a couple grow and not cause the downfall. It is nice to earn that happily-ever-after plateau.

But marriage is not as easy as a Disney fairytale had told everyone. Intimacy must be maintained long after the honeymoon is over to guarantee the husband and wife that yes, this marriage would last. That yes, forever is possible.

Article From: savingamarriage

Secrets to a Long, Happy Marriage!

Dear reader, this is only a joke since every single post I've make is a very serious and touching. So, this is only for relaxing and laugh!! Enjoy reading..

9. Two times a week, we go to a nice restaurant, have a little wine, some good food and companionship. She goes Tuesday's, I go Friday's.

8. We also sleep in separate beds. Hers is in Florida and mine is in Cincinnati.

7. I take my wife everywhere, but she keeps finding her way back.

6. I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said. So I suggested the kitchen.

5. We always hold hands. If I let go, she shops.

4. She has an electric blender, electric toaster, and electric bread maker. Then she said, "There are too many gadgets, and no place to sit down!" So I bought her an electric chair.

3. My wife is on a new diet. Coconuts and bananas. She hasn't lost weight, but BOY, can she climb a tree now.

2. She ran after the garbage truck, yelling, "Am I too late for the garbage?" The driver said, "No, jump in!"

and last but not least...

1. She got a mud pack and looked great for two days. Then the mud fell off!

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