101 Ways To Tell Your Wife, "I Love You"

Five Golden Gifts to Keep Your Wife Smiling

2009-04-27T19:53:00.000-07:00

Of course your wife's gonna nag you - when was the last time you bought her a proper gift? If your memory fails you, it's about time you went hunting for gift ideas all over again. Here's how to satisfy your partner without spending a packet.

• Gift Idea Number One - Order a bouquet of roses.
One of the best ways to ensure she gets in a good mood is to present her a bouquet of red roses. Order your bouquet of roses online to save yourself the hassle of looking all over for the right piece. Ordering online will also enable you to get substantial discount from cut flower stores on orders over a certain amount.

• Gift Idea Number Two - Bake a Cake.
Give her some time off and bake a cake for her. It isn't terribly difficult for even the worst of cooks, and all you need is a good recipe, a proper oven, and the ability to stick to the recipe whatever your mind says! The fun, adventure and sheer love resulting from your gift will be worth every effort.

• Gift Idea Number Three - Buy a soft toy.
Soft toys come in all shapes and sizes, and fairly good ones can be got at pretty cheap prices sometimes. Keep looking on your market visits, and you may just land up with a great piece that is worth much more. You can also browse the internet on popular sites like ebBay for discounted pieces.

• Gift Idea Number Four - Outsource some trinkets.
Women simply love trinkets. Ask your friend who's going on a holiday to any exotic place to get you some souvenirs. You can then surprise your wife by gifting her an ebony piece from Kenya or a shell from the Bahamas when you never moved out of home yourself!

• Gift Idea Number Five - Get tickets for the show she really wanted to see.
You've been giving some reason or the other to give it the slip. Get a couple of tickets without telling her. The time you'll spend together will be the greatest gift for her.

Use these simple gift ideas to enliven your marriage without spending too much cash, and look forward to happier times with your spouse!

Article by: Jasnaf Nagpal

Feng Shui Tips for the Bathroom

2009-04-18T12:48:00.000-07:00

The bathroom has a bad reputation in feng shui, and in some ways this is deserved, as you will discover. But it's not all negative. Comfort, cleanliness, and convenience are key ingredients to good feng shui, and our modern bathrooms provide them all.

One of the challenges posed by the modern bathroom is that there's no good place for it in the ba gua* [the feng shui map of a space], which long predates indoor plumbing. We can look at the ba gua and see at a glance that the Family area would be a good place for the living room, that a home office is well-placed in the Knowledge, Wealth, or Career sectors, and that the Marriage corner of the house is a great place for the master bedroom. But where does the bathroom go?

The bathroom is a little out of place anywhere, although some locations are more troublesome than others. The thing to keep in mind is that bathroom plumbing has a draining effect wherever it is located.

Some very difficult bathroom locations are next to or above the front door and on the second floor directly above the kitchen. These locations are particularly difficult because:

- A bathroom in the front hall, close to the door, can drain chi away before it has a chance to circulate through the rest of the house.

- A second-floor bathroom above the front door floods the main entry to your home with negative energy.

- The water energy in a bathroom above the kitchen will extinguish the hearth's fire energy, and flood the entire kitchen with negative energy. This is potentially damaging to both health and prosperity.

The worst location for a bathroom is in the center of your home, where it will destabilize the energy of the entire home. If you suspect that the bathrooms in your house are affecting important spaces, there's no need to panic. Use these simple feng shui remedies to help keep your health, wealth, and happiness from flowing down the drain:

- Problem: bathroom in an important feng shui area (wealth, fame, marriage, etc.)
Solutions: a full-length mirror on the outside of the bathroom door helps deflects chi so it won't be drained away; keep sink and shower drains closed when not in use; keep the toilet seat/lid down when not in use.

- Problem: bathroom in the center of the home
Solutions: paint the walls red, and place a stone, large crystal, or other earth-type object (such as a heavy ceramic bowl, vase, or statuette) in each corner to help stabilize the energy; a mirror on the outside of the door is highly recommended for this bathroom location.

- Problem: bathroom over the front door or over the kitchen
Solutions: hang a faceted crystal in the center of the room; place a three-inch round mirror on the ceiling directly above the toilet to visually reverse the downward flow of water (use double-sided tape to hold the mirror in place); place earth-type objects in the corners of the room to stabilize the energy; add an image such as a bird or tree to the downstairs area below the bathroom to help lift the energy there.

Bathrooms are places for purification and cleansing, so a clean, sanitary bathroom strengthens and supports this important energy. A dirty bathroom, on the other hand, emphasizes the negative qualities of this room. If your bathroom occupies any of the more challenging locations described above, it is essential to keep it sparkling clean, tidy, and well-lit.

After implementing the necessary precautions described above, you can further improve the chi of the bathroom by making it as pleasant a space as possible. This is where you begin and end the active part of each day, so the more attractive and inviting you can make it the better.

Most of us live hectic, stressful lives, and are in serious need of soothing places where we can relax and unwind. A clean, tidy, nicely appointed bathroom invites you to soak your worries away in a hot bath with lavender-scented bath salts. Make this pampering experience even nicer with candlelight, soft music, and a pile of fresh fluffy towels with which to dry off. All-white bathroom decor can seem cold and clinical; add warmth with pastel-colored towels and accessories, colorful scented candles, and attractive artwork.

Author : Stephanie Roberts (Alpha Books, 2004)

You Can Laugh At Marriage Worries If You Follow This Simple 3-Step Plan

2009-04-13T10:12:00.000-07:00

Any successful businessman, entrepreneur, or college graduate will tell you they were successful because they had a goal and a plan. If your goal is to protect your marriage from the worries that many couples face, then you need a plan for success. Here is a 3-step plan to help.

Step #1 - Open Communication

The best offense in warding off the intrusion of an affair is to have a rewarding, satisfying marriage that meets the needs of both partners. As you discuss ways to keep your marriage strong, you will garner strength to prevent an affair from happening. Thus, open communication is critical in your marriage.

It is also important to commit to letting each other know if you are feeling vulnerable or if a situation has the potential of turning in a direction that may get out of control.

Common situations that could create temptations are business trips, business parties or at work in general. It's important to discuss as a partnership what boundaries should be set to avoid undue exposure to temptation.

Step #2 - Resolving Money Matters

Statistics show that 43% of all married couples argue over money issues. This data speaks loudly of the major reason most couples fight. I

If one is frugal and the other spends money like it's going out of style, it can't help but create problems in your

marriage. Therefore, the earlier you and your spouse talk about spending habits the better.

It's important to establish spending expectations, set goals and decide on a short and long term financial plan for your family.

Step #3 - Take Time For Intimacy

Even though you both have busy schedules and you may not feel like you have enough time to get the basics done each day, take time to be intimate.

Sex is a basic human need that has to take priority over other things. As you set this as a priority, the other things in your life will fall into place as your marriage is strengthened.

Some of the most successful people know the importance of having balance in their lives. They are the ones that set aside time for their family, recreational activities and work.

By keeping a balance, you are able to side step marriage worries and be more effective in every aspect of your life.

As you include these steps in your marriage plan, you will find that most of the problems other marriages face are not even a concern to you and your spouse.

Be Thankful for a Faithful Husband

2009-04-11T10:42:00.000-07:00

If your husband is faithful, you have much to be thankful for. Faithful husbands are in short supply. While 3 out of 4 wives assume their husbands are faithful, only 1 wife in 4 can truthfully make that claim. According to statistics, 3 out of 4 men cheat on their wives. 2/3 of those wives (approximately 26 million women) have no idea their husbands are having an affair - despite the presence of numerous telltale signs.

A Rude Awakening

Every year countless women who thought they had faithful husbands, are shocked when their husbands ask for a divorce or simply move in with another woman. Others are dumbfounded to discover from empty bank accounts that family funds were used to finance an extramarital affair. Still others are astonished to learn that they’ve contracted a sexually transmitted disease.

Why the Wife is the Last to Know

Why is it that the wife is always the last to know? Could all these women be in denial? How could a wife not know her husband is having an affair? If a wife has no reason to suspect her husband it’s easy to miss or misinterpret the warning signs. Especially if she’s unfamiliar with the 21 categories of telltale signs.

Reasons to be Thankful

Not every married man is a cheating husband, though the overwhelming majority of them are. Nevertheless, there are still many faithful husbands around. If you’re married to one, you have a lot to be thankful for.

•You can be thankful that your marriage and family are intact.
•You can be thankful you don’t have to agonize over the decision of whether to leave your husband or stay with him and try to get your marriage back on track.
•You can be thankful the years you’ve invested in your marriage have not been in vain.
•You can be thankful that you don’t have to deal with the devastation and the emotional
trauma that infidelity brings.

Make Sure You’re Not An Unsuspecting Wife

Given the rising rate of infidelity, you owe it to yourself and your marriage to make sure you’re not one of those 26 million unsuspecting wives. But how can you be sure your husband isn’t having an affair? By familiarizing yourself with the early warning signs.

Your Marriage May Depend on It

The future of your marriage may one day depend on your ability to spot the warning signs of infidelity. There are numerous things you can do to save your marriage if you spot the telltale signs in time. But if your marriage turns out to be unsalvageable, you can still take steps to protect yourself legally, financially and sexually. You can also prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the devastation that lies ahead. At least you won’t be taken by surprise. But the first step to solving a problem is knowing the problem exists. If a wife has no idea her husband is cheating, by the time she finds out, it may be too late.

So if your husband is faithful, be thankful. Faithful husbands are few and far between. If you’re not sure, be thankful you happened upon this article. Make it your business to find out where you stand before it’s too late. You’ll be thankful you did.

Whats in a Kiss

2009-04-09T13:10:00.000-07:00

Just think of being in front of a warm cracking with you partner in your hands, with a kiss and a cuddle. But have you ever thought about why people kiss? It could be a greeting or a sign of affection, but we all kiss.

Origin of the kiss

The strangest theory on the history of the kiss that I have heard finds its roots in the age of the cave man. It is thought that in primitive times that a mother pre-chewed the food for her baby and transferred it 'in a kiss'. Although this could never be proved, it would explain why the kiss is a sign of affection, between mother and child and latter, adults.

Another theory that I found was that the kiss was reflected in the Ziller Valley of Central Europe, where the exchange of pre-chewed tobacco between a male and a female was common. The young man would let a tip of the piece of tobacco, or spruce resin, etc rest between his closed teeth and invite the girl to grasp it with her teeth -- which of course obliged her to press her mouth firmly on that of the young man -- and pull it out. If a girl accepted the wad of pre-chewed tobacco, it meant she returned the boy's love.

The third theory that I found was from a religious or sacred origin. There have been examples from around the world as early as 2000 BC, that show that people could have brought their faces together to symbolise spiritual union. Even in the culture of Indians, it was believed that the exhaled breath was part of the soul, and by two people bringing their mouths together, showed the joining of their souls. (Another variation on this believed that kissing evolved from the smelling of a companion's face as an act of greeting. )

Kiss through history

Even without fully knowing where the kiss came from, it is well known that the kiss has been with us for a long time.

In the sixth century in France, dancing was one way to display affection, but every dance was ended in a kiss.

Apparently, Russia was the first to incorporate the kiss

into the marriage ceremony, where a promise was sealed with a kiss.

The Romans kissed to greet each other. On Roman emperor showed a persons importance, by what part of his body they were allowed to kiss, from the cheek to the foot.

In 16th century England, the clove-studded apple originated. An apple was prepared by piercing it with as many cloves as the fruit could hold and then a maid then carried the apple through the fair till she spied a lad she thought worth kissing. She would offer him the apple, and once he'd selected and chewed one of the cloves, they would share a kiss. After that, the apple passed into the man's possession, and he would venture off in search of another lass to continue the game with.

At one stage it was even thought that people found kissing pleasurable because when the two lips met during kissing, an electric current was generated.

A kiss is a kiss

Now days, kisses range from small pecks on the cheeks as a greeting, to an the use of the lips and tongue as a sign of passion. It is that action that when two people embrace, causes hormones are released into the blood stream, inducing a sense of euphoria that you feed in the sweetness of your lovers mouth.

It's a kiss that brings every fibre of your being alive, turns your stomach over, sends Goosebumps up your spine. It's a kiss that forgives your misdemeanours and smiles at your mistakes. Ingrid Bergman puts it together in that
"a kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous".

Gas Vs Diesel

2009-04-05T11:00:00.000-07:00

Do you love your wife, but she seems cool and stand off-ish. I'll tell you a secret. She's as frustrated as you are. It's a fact that sex in a long term relationship lasts about 5 minutes on average. Maybe less if you have kids. That's depressing! But here's the good news. You can change that in YOUR life. Are you ready for the tip that could revolutionize your sex life forever?

Your wife is a diesel engine and you run on gas. (I heard you snicker, that's not what I meant.)

Some of you may not be mechanics but I'll explain.

For a guy, it doesn't matter how "cold" it is in his world, if you turn him on, in five minutes he's rev-ed up and ready to go.

Diesels don't work like that. If it's cold out it might not start at all. If it starts, it rattles and grumbles and takes forever to warm up, but boy, does it go once it gets warm! You never jump in a diesel and turn the key, NEVER! The glow plugs have to warm things up just to get started. And you never drive a diesel cold. It's sluggish, doesn't respond well and performance is mediocre at best. But who's fault is it the driver's or the the engine's?

There's nothing wrong with gas engines. There's nothing wrong with diesels. They are just different. If you treat an engine according to what it is and not by how you think it should be, you will have better results. Is this starting to make sense to you guys?

A diesel's response time is much better when she's been plugged in. Have you "plugged" in to you wife lately? Husbands, you set the tone of the evening the minute you walk in the door. You wife is just as tired as you are, both mentally and physically. But she still has four hours (or more) to go, as you plomp down in your chair.

If your boss came into your office, rattled off a to-do list for you, then proceeded to sit down in your chair, put his feet up on your desk, and tell you how you are doing the tasks wrong, how would you feel? Bitter, angry, resentful? If this happened day after day, wouldn't you either become resigned and uncaring about the criticism or become so angry that you'd feel like quitting? Are you beginning to see where this is going? Does it shed some light on some of the anger or pain that you see in your house?

So, let's play out a typical evening in everyday USA. You walk in the house, past the garbage that stinks (making sure to mention the smell), past a wife up to her elbows in supper and dishsoap. You complain because supper's not ready, walk past the frig to sit down (then ask if she could bring you a drink), Then kick off you shoes into the middle of the floor and growl at the kids because their toys are all over the floor (next to your shoes).

In your first five minutes home, you have set up an evening of stress, tension and anger. Now, is it any wonder that you aren't getting the response you want at bed time? Really.

Now, let me replay the same five minutes, showing you how to plug your wife in for the evening.

1. You walk in the door, hang up your coat, kiss your wife on the side of her neck and gently touch her hip.
Whisper in her ear that you missed her or your glad to see her.

2. Find ONE nice thing to say about her, personally, that you can complement her on. Women are so use to doing all day long. It's so nice to have our husband notice that you curled your hair or put perfume on today. To be noticed as a person is so nice. "Those jeans look nice" or "Your hair is so shiny" whatever works! If it's one of those days when she looks like a banshee in a bathrobe, tell her she has beautiful eyes.

3. Take out the garbage without being asked (or commenting on how full it is) and put a bag in it when you are done. Or empty the dishwasher. Do one small job so she doesn't have to. It takes five minutes, but the investments worth it . Trust me) N

4. Put your shoes away and your clothes in the hamper and get your own drink.

5. Now, make one positive comment about the house:" Thanks for washing the car," " supper smells good" The counters look nice"

6. Pat her bottom or rub her shoulders then go plop into your chair.
See?!

That wasn't so hard. It took 10 minutes of your evening to plug her in. Now keep up the momentum. She's plugged in and warming up. At supper, offer to cut up the kids' food or wash the kids or set the table. After supper, load the dishwasher while she washes the pots.

Now you have done three things on her to do list, and built her up on the way. She has time to sit with you on the couch or take a shower before bed or time to read or time to get the kids in bed on time.

She has a minute to breathe, and you gave that to her. That's one of the best gifts my husband gives me is time and energy. Because these are things I'm running short of by 6 pm. When he does this stuff it refreshes me. I want to go to bed early, and sleeping is not what's on my mind. No matter how cold and hectic and frazzling my day has been, if he walks in with a kiss and a kind word it starts to warm me up. It makes our home a safe place to be. Not one more job and one mask to wear. When he walks in and does this stuff, I'm thinking about the snuzzle on my neck while I'm working on supper, not the fact that he's watching TV, while I slave away in the kitchen.

I'm sure it's not enlightened of me but that doesn't matter. It is what it is. My husband's actions affect my moods and my thoughts. Most every woman I know feels the same.

His helping me even a little warms me a lot. At first, you might meet with some skepticism. If she's not used to this kind of behavior from you. She'll probably keep her walls up awhile, to see how long this lasts. Hold steady. When she sees that this is a pattern change for you, you will see a big difference in you home life and your love life.

Article By: Enid Neel

Healthy Tips for Steady Love Relationship, "Husband, Love Your Wife, Wife, Love Your Husband..."

2009-03-30T09:43:00.000-07:00

Take note of these 3 phrases:

[1] "True love is long-suffering, patient, understanding and faithful in the awakening of the other's love'

[2] "True love knows no barriers, no challenges, no flaws and it is always forgive and forget...."

[3] "Give your heart to only one, but your smiles to everyone.'

This should be expected between husband and wife partnerships. To foster a relationship and to maintain it needs skills to do so. It is of quite importance that one should stay faithful to each other. It is a comforting feeling that the presence of children will always cement relationships among parents.

One should not regret for a choice one made in marriage. It has been fated that the two of them should come together to produce new offspring.. Marriage isn't a buying up a suit and after feeling bored with it, throw it away and buy another new one. If you have made the vow or choice, never regret. It is a decision made to last or else this world will be in chaos.

Knowing that a suit can get faded and torn, it is the same for all ladies and gentlemen. No one will stay at 18 forever and no one is wise enough to pick a perfect choice when infatuated. Love isn't built on beds of roses, it is not just milk and honey... or darling for ever, agreed? The coming together of 2 person that comes from 2 different worlds are facing many realities of life when they start to live together.

[4] 'Tolerance, patience, persistence, interdependence, confidence, trust, open-ness, win/win situations, are attributes that can build a relationship, and the question is 'Are you willing to make it work?'

My mentor used to joke.... in this love thing, one always start from a stranger to friend and then to lovers, but after marriage, it becomes the opposite. Now it is from lovers, cold friends, then to strangers...eventually leading to breakups. Why is it always like this? What has gone wrong? When one is in love, each can sacrifice almost anything to gain each other's love, but now it is just the opposite.

Familiarity breeds contempt? Bored? Discovered something? Unwilling to change? Too sophisticated? Stagnant/stale relationship? Language barrier? Body barrier? One is lagging behind? Discrimination? Too attached? Too much dependence? No money, no talk? Someone is more sexy? 3rd party? Love problems? Health problems? Lack of sexual desire? No comfort? Too unresponsive? Too naive? No electricity? His faults? His bad character? No brains? the lists will be too long to write...

I have come across many women in emotional distress, and never even dared to talk about their failure in their love-life and family, about love fading, being ,deceived, about being jilted, about being left cold, about being sandwiched in between another mistress, losing interest in sex life and poor health. Most of these women suffered in silence and seemed to hoard all these negatives in their heart and mind. These women are sometimes so stressed that they released their angers on their own children. Just imagine, hurting physically or hurling hurting remarks to young children, their own kids and regretting later. We call that child abuse, this isn't a new issue, right?

How much more pitiful sights should one hear or see? How distressing it is to see these women being provoked and couldn't control their anger and hate? The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, heard this phrase? The young will be indirectly influenced by bad temper and be ill-treated with abusive, rough meaningless words. That is why the morals of modern world have corrupted due to the improper bringing up of distressed mothers and maids or amahs their children grew up with. Instead of their own mothers, they grow up with Indonesian maids or amahs, and eventually they talk and think like one...

Emotional balance for a wife or a mother is too important in the structuring or influencing of our next generations. So, it again goes back to a happy family where the parents should be in good terms with each other. Parents should show good examples and lead the way to true happiness. Separations or divorces will be too hurting to each and everyone of the concerned.

[5] Treat this relationship as a journey instead of a destination.... All of us starts from strangers budding to friends, then to lovers, then to parents, grandparents and even lying beside each other when cold and lifeless.......companions for this life and eternity. Ever thought of it? It has been fated as I have said.

I came across an old wise man who told me this. "Husband and Wife is one life!" This only phrase awaken in me a reality, an understanding that I thought never would be. This awakening becomes my answer to my problems... I came to understand that 'his is also mine, mine is also his....', his problems are also mine, his wrongs or rights are also mine. There is no escape. Never think of fair or not fair....

[6] Yes, there is no escape on fair or not fair, or who is doing the lions share of work or anything..... Another wise old man told me too that if one demands justice in this topic of you love me, so I love you, you give, so I also give; you work, so I work.....there will never be any peace. Where is JUSTICE? Justice cannot be applied in 'male or female equal rights!' The more you fight, the more hurt it will bring.... the more sufferings will be there...

This husband and wife's love is a selfish love, but without it, there will be chaos. A perfect love between spouses will be proven when and where no third party can intrude or go in between them. An imperfect love will allow a third party to interrupt or is that an excuse for some? .

[7] The power of love and sex should never be underestimated. It has moved mountains and created histories of countless victories and failures. Many heroes still fall onto the feet of beauties, losing fame, families and failing their missions. Too many heroes and heroines are attracted by outer beauty, not inner beauty. Too many heroes and heroines preferred to be lured into the fantasies and wonders of forbidden love. The forbidden fruits too delicious to avoid. What can we do? Samson the strongest man fell to ruins too. He regretted and said. "A night's sensual pleasure is not worth a lifetime's imprisonment and death was the punishment!" It wasn't just a story.

Who are we to say that they are wrong? Who are we to say that they shouldn't or couldn't do this or that? But it has been written in the 10 commandments that we shouldn't commit adultery. Not the bible only, but wise teachings too. A solid marriage is only solid when both partners agreed to keep it as an eternal bond, otherwise separation is too easy. And how many people are really willing to work hard to keep the marriage? How many people are patient enough to wait in the awakening of the other's love?

[8] Keeping in mind that all humans have weaknesses. To err is human, to forgive is divine. To make mistakes or not to... sometimes this passion or love thing is too complicated to explain or express.. The efforts put into untangling or disconnecting an affair or forbidden love needs tremendous strong will and determinations..... but for the sake of family happiness and togetherness, all problems should be solved. For the sake of LOVE, for the sake of the children and our parents too.

Article from: Lucy Wong Moi

Men, If You're Doing This, It Will Push Your Wife Into Another Man's Arms Every Time

2009-03-27T10:37:00.000-07:00

You can deeply love your wife...

To spend the rest of your life with her can be your greatest desire...

But, if you possess one certain characteristic, you can be assured that two things will happen:

1. Your wife will first check out emotionally

2. Your wife will then leave you for another partner (that she's either already found or will find)

Would you like to know what this one characteristic is so you can avoid it? Yes?

Here it is... Wait... Maybe it's better that you discover it for yourself in the following...

Do you frequently wonder what your wife's true feelings are towards you?

Are you always asking her if she loves you?

And, if she does say that she loves you, do you often doubt that she really means it in her heart?

What about phone calls or letters that she receives? Is it really important to you to know who they are from and what was said?

Do you secretly question if your wife is really committed and true to you?

Are you one who likes lots of reassurance from your wife that everything in your marriage relationship is ok?

Maybe, you want constant confirmation from your wife that she'll always be with you and will never leave you?

And, if something does go wrong in the marriage relationship, do you automatically start wondering if it's over with and thinking that there's no hope?

Stop! Have you already picked up on what the characteristic is?

Here it is in a word...

INSECURITY

And, the bad news is that insecurity never runs by itself...it always drags along its close cousins of CONTROLLING, NEGATIVITY, and SUSPICION.

The insecure man tries to "control" his wife - although he rarely realizes it - even as he interprets everything about her with "suspicion" and injects "negativity" into everything she does.

That's why I can assert that an insecure man's wife will eventually check out emotionally after which she will physically depart the marriage relationship.

It's a fact...the insecure man IS losing his wife. The only question is how long it will be before she's gone.

You see, a husband's continual insecurity wears on his wife. It grates on her nerves. It emotionally drains her.

See, with all of life's bombardments, one has to work at keeping themselves emotionally healthy. But, when you also have to be an "emotional support system" for another person, it quickly becomes too much...too draining.

At the start of the relationship, although a wife may find it irksome that her husband needs constant reassuring, she'll go ahead and give it to him. But, she quickly reaches a state where she's given out all of her reassurance and she has no reassurance left for herself.

Even worse, she's not getting the reassurance from her husband that she craves... She's always giving out reassurance but never getting anything back in return.

This wife quickly tires of having to constantly reassure an insecure husband. She tires of giving. She tires of trying.

On one hand, she DREAMS of being with a man who causes her to feel alive and exhilarated. On the other hand, she LIVES with a husband whose nagging insecurity leaves her feeling drained and exhausted.

And so, a wife who is married to an insecure man goes through a progression:

1. She starts to view her husband as UNATTRACTIVE. (And the husband starts complaining that his wife's desire for sex is declining.)

2. She progresses to resenting her husband's WEAKNESS. (And the husband becomes even more unhappy because his wife won't hardly have sex at all now.)

3. Finally, she reaches the stage where she literally HATES her husband. (And the husband is really unhappy now because he and his wife virtually never have sex anymore.)

These three steps are the wife's "checking out emotionally" phase that I referred to at the beginning.

And, once she's completed this process of "checking out", she WILL leave. She will leave as a matter of SELF-PRESERVATION - as a matter of protecting her sanity, dignity, and peace-of-mind.

Bottom line, it is a foolish man who expects his wife to understand, support, and hang around to be tormented by his insecurity.

Article From: NymphomaniacWife

The Path to Forever: Intimacy and a Lasting Marriage

2009-03-21T22:55:00.000-07:00

For a marriage to survive and last until that dreamy "forever," intimacy must exist between the couple. What is intimacy anyway? This just does not pertain to the act of making love, but fulfilling each other's emotional needs.

It entails enlightening conversations in between kisses and caresses. A lot of marriage counselors chalk up the longevity of a marriage to how intimate the couple is.

Here are some ways how to achieve that intimacy for an ideal, almost-perfect marriage:

1. All work and no intimacy make a dull couple. It is a given that after a crazy day at the office, the husband and wife both feel exhausted. But they must not let it get in the way of their relationship. They must allow for some quality time in and out of their love bed.

2. The husband must give what his wife wants: quality talk time. Wives want to talk things out and express what is inside their hearts. The husband must grant her that as this is one way to achieve emotional intimacy.

3. The couple must still exert an effort to look attractive. It does not mean that both must be “dressed up” all the time. But married couples must still try their best to look nice for their partners. This is one of the ways to start up the intimacy.

4. The couple must schedule dates. Dating must not end at marriage. In fact, both should set a time to go out and have fun, just like before.

5. Husband and wife must continually unleash their romantic side. Kisses, hugs, flowers, holding hands, stolen smacks...’the works’ - they do magic in a relationship.

6. Surprises are nice. Sweet surprises always lead to intimacy. If the couple knows when to pull off these incredibly romantic stints, then that's a surefire way to attain a divorce-proof relationship.

7. Solving a problem before it gets blown out of proportion is important. Intimacy loses its appeal once it gets "infected" by those conflicts that cripple the relationship. Conflicts should let a couple grow and not cause the downfall. It is nice to earn that happily-ever-after plateau.

But marriage is not as easy as a Disney fairytale had told everyone. Intimacy must be maintained long after the honeymoon is over to guarantee the husband and wife that yes, this marriage would last. That yes, forever is possible.

Article From: savingamarriage

Secrets to a Long, Happy Marriage!

2009-03-20T03:58:00.000-07:00

Dear reader, this is only a joke since every single post I've make is a very serious and touching. So, this is only for relaxing and laugh!! Enjoy reading..

9. Two times a week, we go to a nice restaurant, have a little wine, some good food and companionship. She goes Tuesday's, I go Friday's.

8. We also sleep in separate beds. Hers is in Florida and mine is in Cincinnati.

7. I take my wife everywhere, but she keeps finding her way back.

6. I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said. So I suggested the kitchen.

5. We always hold hands. If I let go, she shops.

4. She has an electric blender, electric toaster, and electric bread maker. Then she said, "There are too many gadgets, and no place to sit down!" So I bought her an electric chair.

3. My wife is on a new diet. Coconuts and bananas. She hasn't lost weight, but BOY, can she climb a tree now.

2. She ran after the garbage truck, yelling, "Am I too late for the garbage?" The driver said, "No, jump in!"

and last but not least...

1. She got a mud pack and looked great for two days. Then the mud fell off!

Article From ahajokes

What Makes a Happy Marriage?

2009-03-18T08:52:00.000-07:00

What are the keys to a happy marriage? How can you enjoy the blessings of a happy family? Is your marriage fulfilling and satisfying? The hope for a happy, fulfilling marriage is one of our deepest desires. Sharing our hopes, dreams and life with the one we love is one of life's most fulfilling experiences.

A happy marriage is not a promise to every couple. Those who discover the keys to a happy marriage manage to make it and prove that marriage can be full of bliss. It is therefore vital to study and understand what makes a happy marriage, before you apply it in your life. Let me start by saying that every couple can have a happy marriage. This is because we were all created with a capacity to be happy and to make other people happy. Joy and happiness is constant and there are no new formulas to make sure you are happy. You just need to remind yourself of what happiness was before you move on. In marriage, happiness is the responsibility of both partners. There are married people who wait for the other person to be the source of their happiness. You must take charge and realize that, to make a happy union, you must first be happy. Your self esteem and confidence must be high. Those people who have a low opinion on life will make lousy marriage partners. Nobody wants to be stuck with a spouse who has a wrong attitude; the marriage might not even work.

Therefore, keep in mind that you need to be a source of love as you receive it. The more love you give the more you receive. For example, let us start with how you treat your spouse. Some people never show respect. You must use a nice language while talking to your mate. This applies to both men and women. Some people treat their friends better than they treat their husbands or wives. Your spouse is the most important person in your life and, you should use a language that will be pleasing to them. Another thing you can do to enhance your union is to be full of compliments. You are the one who should empower your spouse remember, this is the only close friend you will ever have. When you got married, you became one and, when you compliment your spouse, you will be complimenting yourself. All these will be enabled by love. If you do not have love in marriage, you are wasting your time.

You will live for convenience but, you will never have true joy. The worse thing is not lack of love in marriage. It is the lack of willingness to love your spouse. Where there is no will there is no way. Other things you can do to create a happy marriage is to look after yourself and look good. It does not matter whether you are going somewhere or not; do it for your partner. To spice up your sex life, try a new position every month. Sex in marriage should be adventurous. Unfortunately, most people have made it boring and uninspired. Play silly games once in a while. You can also surprise each other with gifts from time to time. If you keep at it, you will discover that marriage can be made in heaven.

Long Distance Relationship Advice

2009-03-17T08:33:00.000-07:00

Advice on Problems that Military Spouses May Face While Their Loved One is Away, and Tips for How to Deal with Their Absence

Dear Military Wife and Mother,

It can be an extremely difficult time in your household when your spouse is deployed. Not only are you dealing with your personal feelings, but you also have to continue to run your household and be a good mother. While it can seem overwhelming, don’t despair -- there are some things you can do to make sure things run smoothly while your spouse is gone.

Problems and solutions, tips and advice for military spouses:

Problem:

Having a loved one in the military can be especially stressful on the spouse or partner when the soldier is deployed – or more so -- deployed overseas. There is uncertainty about whether or not the deployed husband or wife is safe and when they are coming home.

Advice:

*Write and number envelopes. You can’t control what goes on where your husband is, but you can keep him in your life and keep you in his, by writing regularly – whether or not you hear from him, and numbering your envelopes and letters helps him will know if he missed one or not.

*Keep a scrapbook of everything that goes on with you and the children while he’s gone so that you can cuddle up with him when he returns and go over each page and tell him what happened while he was gone. He’ll have more of a grasp of what it was he missed – rather than it being a big cloud that keeps the two of you apart. You can’t make up for the fact that he wasn’t with you, but you can keep him in the loop when he’s home.

Problem:

*Suddenly single mothers. It is also hard to be a suddenly single parent and children of suffer stress, as well. Just having an extra set of hands and a warm hug that your husband (or wife), who is now deployed, provided before he left, can be a big loss. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and harried.

Advice:

*Get involved with other single mothers in your area or neighborhood. They are used to pooling their resources and helping each other out. You’ll learn a lot, and won’t feel so lonely. It’s nice for the children, too.

Problem:

*Intimacy goes missing when your husband or wife is deployed. I’m not just talking about sex. Having someone to tell your feelings to – whenever you want – is a luxury many of us take for granted.

Advice:Pressure. Be aware of not putting too much pressure on each other in phone calls or e-mails with your deployed husband. They may be few and far between and if you don’t "connect" the way you had hoped you would don’t spend the time waiting for the next phone call worrying that something is wrong. Remember that you don’t really know what’s going on over there, and he may be stressed about things he’s not telling you about. It’s probably not about you.

Problem:

*Financial stress of having a husband who has a good salary in a job, suddenly not have that salary, and the family has to rely on military salaries, which are comparatively low, can be great. Especially if his tour of duty is extended longer than you thought it would be.

Advice:

*Spend carefully. Don’t spend money to cure anxieties. This is a time to watch your budget and look to family for help if you need. Use public parks and beaches for entertainment instead of going to dinner and movies with the kids. Make gifts instead of buying them.

Problem:

Loneliness. Its common for friends and neighbors to be there for you when your husband first ships out, but it’s pretty common for the attention to whither away with time.

Advice:

Community. Find a community of other military families who have loved ones deployed. They will offer support that other friends and family can't because they know what it's like firsthand. Having regular get-togethers with the adults and the families will be helpful for all of the family members.

Online bulleting boards and websites especially for military families are helpful for support and communication between families and their soldiers who are deployed. Hotlines for military families that offer information can alleviate stress.

Marriage & Relationship Advice : How to Love Your Wife

2009-03-16T12:01:00.000-07:00

Hope you guys enjoy this video, this video is about how to love your wife. Learn more tips on love your wife from my blog.

"Don't-Tell-the-Wife" Secrets All Men Keep

2009-03-16T10:45:00.000-07:00

11 Important thing that you should keep from your wife

Secret 1: Yes, we fall in lust 10 times a day -- but it doesn't mean we want to leave you

If the oldest question in history is "What's for dinner?" the second oldest is "Were you looking at her?" The answer: Yes -- yes, we were. If you're sure your man doesn't look, it only means he possesses acute peripheral vision.

"When a woman walks by, even if I'm with my girlfriend, my vision picks it up," says Doug LaFlamme, 28, of Laguna Hills, California. "I fight the urge to look, but I just have to. I'm really in trouble if the woman walking by has a low-cut top on."

Granted, we men are well aware that our sizing up the produce doesn't sit well with you, given that we've already gone through the checkout line together. But our passing glances pose no threat.

"It's not that I want to make a move on her," says LaFlamme. "Looking at other women is like a radar that just won't turn off."

Secret 2: We actually do play golf to get away from you

More than 21 million American men play at least one round of golf a year; of those, an astounding 75 percent regularly shoot worse than 90 strokes a round. In other words, they stink. The point is this: "Going golfing" is not really about golf. It's about you, the house, the kids -- and the absence thereof.

"I certainly don't play because I find it relaxing and enjoyable," admits Roland Buckingham, 32, of Lewes, Delaware, whose usual golf score of 105 is a far-from-soothing figure. "As a matter of fact, sometimes by the fourth hole I wish I were back at the house with the kids screaming. But any time I leave the house and don't invite my wife or kids -- whether it's for golf or bowling or picking up roadkill -- I'm just getting away."

Secret 3: We're unnerved by the notion of commitment, even after we've made one to you

This is a dicey one, so first things first: We love you to death. We think you're fantastic. Most of the time we're absolutely thrilled that we've made a lifelong vow of fidelity to you in front of our families, our friends and an expensive videographer.

But most of us didn't spend our formative years thinking, "Gosh, I just can't wait to settle down with a nice girl so we can grow old together." Instead we were obsessed with how many women who resembled Britney Spears we could have sex with before we turned 30. Generally it takes us a few years (or decades) to fully perish that thought.

Secret 4: Earning money makes us feel important

In more than 7.4 million U.S. marriages, the wife earns more than the husband -- almost double the number in 1981. This of course is a terrific development for women in the workplace and warmly embraced by all American men, right? Right?

Yeah, well, that's what we tell you. But we're shallow, competitive egomaniacs. You don't think it gets under our skin if our woman's bringing home more bacon than we are -- and frying it up in a pan?

"My wife and I are both reporters at the same newspaper," says Jeffrey Newton, 33, of Fayetteville, South Carolina. "Five years into our marriage I still check her pay stub to see how much more an hour I make than she does. And because she works harder, she keeps closing the gap."

Secret 5: Though we often protest, we actually enjoy fixing things around the house

I risk being shunned at the local bar if this magazine finds its way there, because few charades are as beloved by guys as this one. To hear us talk, the Bataan Death March beats grouting that bathroom shower. And, as 30-year-old Ed Powers of Chicago admits, it's a shameless lie. "In truth, it's rewarding to tinker with and fix something that, without us, would remain broken forever," he says. Plus we get to use tools.

"The reason we don't share this information," Powers adds, "is that most women don't differentiate between taking out the trash and fixing that broken hinge; to them, both are tasks we need to get done over the weekend, preferably during the Bears game. But we want the use-your-hands, think-about-the-steps-in-the-process, home-repair opportunity, not the repetitive, no-possibility-of-a-compliment, mind-dulling, purely physical task." There. Secret's out.

Secret 6: We like it when you mother us, but we're terrified that you'll become your mother

With apologies to Sigmund Freud, Gloria Steinem -- and my mother-in-law.

Secret 7: Every year we love you more

Sure, we look like adults. We own a few suits. We can probably order wine without giggling. But although we resemble our father when he was our age, we still feel like that 4-year-old clutching his pant leg.

With that much room left on our emotional-growth charts, we sense we've only begun to admire you in the ways we will when we're 40, 50 and -- God forbid -- 60. We can't explain this to you, because it would probably come out sounding like we don't love you now.

"It took at least a year before I really started to appreciate my wife for something other than just great sex; and I didn't discover her mind fully until the third year we were married," says Newton. "But the older and wiser I get, the more I love my wife." Adds J.P. Neal, 32, of Potomac, Maryland: "The for-richer-or-poorer, for-better-or-worse aspects of marriage don't hit you right away. It's only during those rare times when we take stock of our life that it starts to sink in."

Secret 8: We don't really understand what you're talking about

You know how, during the day, you sometimes think about certain deep, complex "issues" in your relationship? Then when you get home, you want to "discuss" these issues? And during these "discussions," your man sits there nodding and saying things like "Sure, I understand," "That makes perfect sense" and "I'll do better next time"?

Well, we don't understand. It doesn't make any sense to us at all. And although we'd like to do better next time, we could only do so if, in fact, we had an idea of what you're talking about.

We do care. Just be aware that the part of our brain that processes this stuff is where we store sports trivia.

Secret 9: We are terrified when you drive

Want to know how to reduce your big, tough guy to a quivering mass of fear? Ask him for the car keys.

"I am scared to death when she drives," says LaFlamme.

"Every time I ride with her, I fully accept that I may die at any moment," says Buckingham.

"My wife has about one 'car panic' story a week -- and it's never her fault. All these horrible things just keep happening -- it must be her bad luck," says Andy Beshuk, 31, of Jefferson City, Missouri.

Even if your man is too diplomatic to tell you, he is terrified that you will turn him into a crash-test dummy.

Secret 10: We'll always wish we were 25 again

Granted, when I was 25 I was working 16-hour days and eating shrimp-flavored Ramen noodles six times a week. But as much as we love being with you now, we will always look back fondly on the malnourished freedom of our misguided youth. "Springsteen concerts, the '91 Mets, the Clinton presidency -- most guys reminisce about the days when life was good, easy and free of responsibility," says Rob Aronson, 41, of Livingston, New Jersey, who's been married for 11 years. "At 25 you can get away with things you just can't get away with at 40."

While it doesn't mean we're leaving you to join a rock band, it does explain why we occasionally come home from Pep Boys with a leather steering-wheel cover and a Born to Run CD.

Secret 11: Give us an inch and we'll give you a lifetime

I was on a trip to Mexico, standing on a beach, waxing my surfboard and admiring the glistening 10-foot waves, when I decided to marry the woman who is now my wife. Sure, this was three years before I got around to popping the question. But that was when I knew.

Why? Because she'd let me go on vacation alone. Hell, she made me go. This is the most important thing a man never told you: If you let us be dumb guys, if you embrace our stupid poker night, if you encourage us to go surfing -- by ourselves -- our silly little hearts, with their manly warts and all, we'll embrace you forever for it.

And that's the truth.

Make Your Partner Love You Forever

2009-03-15T12:14:00.000-07:00

What does it take to make a partner love you forever? How do we work out what our other half is looking for in the perfect partner? There's always that feeling that if we could only find the answers to those questions, we would know how to act and keep them in our lives no matter what.

The sad fact is that there isn't one single answer to either question and in many ways you can drive yourself crazy trying to analyse all the possibles. There is one answer though, to stop the worry.

Because the anxiety you are feeling right now is down to an insecurity in yourself, and if we can work on that, then you will magically find you know longer have the stress of wanting know how to make your partner love you forever; it will simply happen.

We all have periods in our lives where we doubt ourselves - temporary insecurity about certain situations is a normal part of being human. But when these feelings affect every part of our lives long term, and especially our relationships with others, it becomes problematic.

The good news is that when we're willing to take a look at our feelings and reactions, we have the greatest opportunity to change. If you have that open attitude, you are already well on your way to stopping the anxiety about your relationship that could be threatening to spoil it in so many ways.

Why do we get into this pattern of insecurity and worry? There are as many reasons as there are people; past bad relationships, unpleasant childhood memories, a gradual increase in low self esteem over the years cause by many different events.

Try these steps for overcoming this pattern and see your concerns about making your partner love you vanish:

Think less about ''the relationship'' and more about you. Have you lost track of what you like doing and how you like to be, look and feel? That young vibrant person you used to be is still in there somewhere and its time to find them again. Your partner can never make you whole; this is a job for you alone. They can't fix you or provide a relief from boredom or stress. It's time to find yourself again.
Remember your needs are both equally important. Sometimes we become so concerned with making someone like us we forget that both partners should be looking after the other. You aren't providing some kind of social service here!
Stop letting your emotions control your actions. Always think before you speak and act, and get some time away from the situation if you think you're going to do or say something in the heat of the moment you will regret later. Give yourself time to plan how you will react to what someone has said or done, and regain a sane, non-dramatic approach.

Poem for wife

2009-03-11T10:25:00.000-07:00

I DEDICATED THIS POEM TO WIFE AND FOR MAN'S PLEASE WRITE A ROMANTIC POEM FOR YOUR WIFE.

The role of a wife has changed significantly during the last hundred years.
Woman now have more freedom than ever before to choose her role to her husband.
Many woman may decide to invest heavily in a career and push off childbearing until a later age. Other woman decide that they want to be a wife in the traditional sense.
Husbands and wives can make all kinds of arrangements that are perfectly workable between each other.
It is important that both parties are aware of the expectations that the other are bringing into the marriage so that there isn't friction later on.

Why It's Important to Respect Your Wife or Husband

2009-03-09T22:08:00.000-07:00

As a husband your purpose in marriage is to respect your wife, even when you don't feel like it. When a man gets married he takes on the added responsibilities of marriage, which include being respectful and caring. A husband is to love his wife as he would love himself.

In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. (Ephesians 5:28-29)

He FEEDS and CARES for it just like Christ does the church. This scriptural analogy here is showing husbands "how to love their wives" - in the same way Christ would feed and care for his church. Wow! It is a big responsibility and sometimes a challenging one at that, but God designed husbands for this purpose in marriage.

If a husband is not respecting his wife in the way he should, then could it be because he is not respecting himself? Usually this means a husband is mistreating himself somehow with too much work, or too much womanizing, or too much pornography, or too much drugs, or too much alcohol, or too much resentment, too much selfishness, too much control over his wife, or too much bitterness from within.

All of these things would keep a husband from truly respecting and caring for his wife properly. If we don't love ourselves, how can we love another?

Respect is a principle that supports and sustains many aspects of marriage. If a husband respects and regards his wife with high esteem it will make her feel good about her role as a woman and of being his wife. Marriage will undoubtedly have its troubles, but if you remember the principle "to treat your wife the way you would like to be treated" then most marriage problems can be resolved amicably before they get out of hand.

If a husband totally disregards his purpose to love his wife because he disrespects himself then he will need inner healing before he can learn to love and respect his wife properly - in the way God intended for a man to love his wife. Respect is an important component of marriage, which keeps it flourishing with abundance no matter what issues may arise.

When a woman gets married she now has a new responsibility, to love and respect her husband, even when she doesn't feel like it. Your whole purpose as a wife is to be the loving woman to your man that God wants you to be. Marriage is not just about a wife's feelings and what she wants and needs, but what both husband and wife want and need as a whole and together in the marriage!

The principle I am just about to tell you should be posted on every mirror and refrigerator in a married couples home so they don't forget it. Here is a great and awesome principle for your marriage. If you study it, remember it, and apply it into your marriage, you will understand and regard the principle of respect with more importance.

"Marriage is not about two separate individuals doing their own thing, but about two intertwined individuals working together to be one whole. A wife is her husband's other half and a husband is his wife's other half. Together a husband and a wife create "one flesh" in the marriage."

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become "one flesh". (Genesis 2:24)

A wife should respect the leadership of her husband, encouraging him to become all that he can be for the marriage and to God. A husband should love and care for his wife in the same way he would care for himself, encouraging her to become all that she can be for the marriage and to God. God wants us to live righteously by having a right relationship with Him first, so we can have a right relationship with the person we married.

Author : Angie Lewis

How to love and respect your wife

2009-03-08T07:48:00.000-07:00

1. Set your career, academic, and health goals, and then work hard to achieve them.
2. Develop a network of diverse and supportive friends.
3. Challenge your wife to be a mutual, respectful, and equal partner in every aspect of your relationship.
4. Resist any forms of intimacy you or your wife find uncomfortable.
5. Believe in your wife’s honesty and integrity by refusing to lie or cover for her no matter how seemingly justifiable the lie or a cover-up might be.
6. Applaud her desire and her attempts to be close to her extended family.
7. Talk to her about what you see, think, and feel regarding matters that are important to you, and offer her opportunities to do the same with you.
8. Resist “shutting down” or playing the silent game or the “hurt puppy” when you do not get what you want.
9. Take full responsibility for your children by spending large blocks of time (three-day weekends) with your children. Do not recruit any help from you wife or extended family to do this.
10. Be as interdependent as possible by finding fulfillment both within your marriage and as an individual. Enjoy being husband and dad without losing your capacity to enjoy life outside of each of these wonderful roles.

The Responsibilities of Wife

2009-03-06T21:57:00.000-08:00

Since the relationship between an husband and wife is a partnership, it is not surprising that many of the responsibilities each have may be identical. For example, just as the husband is to be selfless, affectionate and kind to his wife, the wife should be the same to her husband.

Paul told Titus in Titus 2:1-10 to give instructions to certain of the brethren in the church. To the older women he charged a responsibility to teach the younger women. They were to admonish them to "love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed" (vs. 4-5). This verse can be used as a template for discussing certain responsibilities peculiar to the wife.

The Godly Wife

The woman who is pleasing God with regard to her familial obligations is characterized by several important attributes.

Love (Philandros, Philoteknos). The love that is enjoined upon the wife by the apostle here is a different kind of love than that mentioned in Ephesians 5 as the man's responsibility to his wife. Where that love (agape) had no specific reference to affection, and dealt with the responsibility of the man to treat his wife correctly, in this text affection is the primary thrust. The woman should have an affectionate love for her husband and her children.

The term philandros literally means "fond of man"; philoteknos likewise means "fond of children." This is the only time these terms are found in the New Testament. The key here is the root philos, which indicates fondness or friendliness, and has reference to the tender feelings that a woman is to have toward her husband and children. The happiness a wife can bring to her home with such tenderness is so important in the lifetime commitment of marriage.

Below is a poem written by an elderly man as he looks back upon the tender love he received from his wife in their life together.

Embers

Warm by the fading embers of my dreams,
Which lived as lively fires long ago.
Still they comfort as though kindled yesterday,
I stir them gently, ever gently in my heart.

You are part of every ember which still warms,
And your glow is how I live from day to day.
I close my eyes and gently then I see,
All the years and years of embers warming me.

I carefully tend my thoughts of what has been,
They are but a feel of the life I've yet to know.
You have warmed my life and spirit constantly,
I've been gifted by your love surrounding me.

Roger E. Honzik

The final line of the poem is especially suitable for our study. "You have warmed my life and spirit constantly, I've been gifted by your love surrounding me." This is the type of love a wife should have for her husband.

Discreet and Chaste. The term discreet is a slightly different form of the same term found in verse four when the older women are told to admonish the younger women to be "sober". Being discreet, or sober, indicates a woman who is in control of her emotions and actions. She has a sound mind, and is not given to excess. She will not embarrass her family.

Chaste (hagnos) is defined by Vines' as "pure from carnality, modest." Happy is the man whose attraction to his wife is primarily to her character and personality rather than her physical attributes. A person's looks have nothing to do with their character and righteousness. A godly woman is one who influences her husband by "your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward; arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel; rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God" (1 Peter 3:2-4).
Homemakers. It is an unfortunate aspect of our society that a woman whose primary work is making a home is looked upon as less valuable or accomplished. This is completely untrue. While it is true that a woman can work outside of the home (see Proverbs 31), no woman can do so righteously if she neglects her home. Too often this is happening, even in the church. All women must understand that if they are entering into a marriage relationship, it will be their responsibility to be the homemaker. The work is given them by God.
Good. Actually, the term is more accurately rendered "kind". There is an old saying that you find from time to time on refrigerator magnets and the like. "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" It is the wife who is the emotional control in the home. If she is kind to her husband and children, the home will happy. A strident, sharp tongued woman can cause tremendous distress. "It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman" (Proverbs 25:24).

Conclusion

A wife has much incentive to be the type of woman described above. She will please her God by having this character. Too, this type of woman is loved by her family. "Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all'" (Proverbs 31:28-29).

Author: Stan Cox

Is Love the Way to a Happy Marriage?

2009-03-05T08:13:00.000-08:00

"The Post Is Love the Way to a Happy Marriage? is written by Timon Weller, the online Writer for the Buyers Web Blog. To view the original post just go to Is Love the Way to a Happy Marriage or read or comment on it here below.."

Is Love the Way to a Happy Marriage? I have been thinking about this question for a while now, yet it is one many have so many opinions on.

Some believe it is the only important aspect to a marriage yet to others it is like only one component..

So many marriages these days fail so what is the commonality to all of these? In fact If a marriage lasts more than 4 years these days you are in the top rare percentage by western statistics..

Elements to a Possible Long Lasting Happy Marriage :

Love
Respect
Commitment
Lifestyle
Common Interests
Friendship

Another aspect I have been thinking about is, if it is not the only way to a happy marriage then what other components are needed?

Is Love the Way to a Happy Marriage..? What do you think..?

Romantic Tips For Husband & Wife

2009-03-04T08:13:00.000-08:00

When it comes to romance, you may have to do something you've never done before in order to enjoy something you've never had before. Here are some practical ideas on how to be romantic with your husband/wife.

Romantic Things to Enjoy Together:

A bubble bath for two
A full body massage
A long passionate kiss on the lips
A kiss anywhere on each other's body
A night of dinner, wine/sparkling juice, dancing and whatever else may follow
A night out "parking"
Shower together by candlelight
Make your bedroom beautiful and inviting
Turn off the television for the evening and spend it talking and cuddling
Use a dry-erase marker and write love notes on the bathroom mirror or the rear-view mirror of your mate's car
Send a love note to your spouse by email
Try playing "strip poker" one night
Use your lips to feed each other popcorn while watching a movie
Give each other love coupons
Fantasize about a special time away for just the two of you; then schedule it!
Enjoy a good pillow fight together
Go stargazing
Make love in front of the fireplace
Drip chocolate syrup on selected body parts before lovemaking
Listen to romantic music by candlelight

Romantic Things To Do For Your Wife:

Put the children to bed
Plan a date night and arrange the babysitting, too
Massage her legs with lotion
Whisper, "I love you" in her ear
Bring home supper
Snuggle in bed with her in the morning
Cook together
Light some candles
Snuggle on the couch with her
Open her car door
Hold her dinner chair at a restaurant
Tell her thank you for a great meal
Brush her hair for her
Send her flowers
Recite a love poem, or write your own about her
Praise her in front of others
Make her breakfast in bed
Hold her hand when you walk together
One cold mornings, warm up her car
Be affectionate without sexual intentions
Go out of your way to run an errand for her
Have "pillow talk" with her after making love by lying close with your arms around her

Romantic Things To Do For Your Husband:

Wear a sexy nightie
Take some digital photos of yourself and let him enjoy them---then erase!
Leave a trail of your clothing and at the end of it he will find you...
Leave him a trail of yarn, string or ribbon so that he finds you at the end
Initiate sex
Wear some of his clothes, like only his button-down shirt, his bathrobe, or pajamas
Let him watch you dress, and undress
Wear sexy underwear
Wear his favorite cologne or perfume
Have dinner in bed and tell him you are the dessert
Slip a sexy piece of lingerie into his suitcase before he goes on a trip
Attach a note to the remote that says, "Turn me on instead!"
Be waiting for him in the bathtub when he gets home from work
Make love in unusual places like:

Outside on the deck or balcony--at home or a motel
In a hammock, a lawn chair, and other outdoor furniture
Every room of the house, including the stairs
On a trampoline
Camping trips
On the beach, in the ocean or in the dunes
In the woods--both on the ground or in a tree house

How a Husband Should Love His Wife & How a Wife Should Love Her Husband

2009-03-03T18:45:00.000-08:00

Let's think of love not as a word but an action. Instead of saying "I love you." Show you wife that you love her. Be more loving! How can a man show his woman he loves her? By doing!

Forget about the box of chocolates and flowers. Any man can go buy these things. But any man cannot show love to his wife on a whim. The chocolates get eaten and make your wife fat and cranky; the flowers wither and die in three days. What about showing your love by doing things that you know your wife will enjoy?

~How Should A Husband Love His Wife~

When was the last time you wined and dined your wife? What about a mini-vacation? Are you the romantic type? If not find out how you can amaze your wife by being a romantic guy. What would that involve?

A woman likes a man who can cook. How about cooking her an intimate candlelit dinner for two? Don't know how to cook? Get a cookbook and do it anyway. Have some fun in the kitchen and enjoy yourself.

Don't forget, you wife likes to be touched and hugged without the pressure of sex looming in the near future. Sometimes the hugging and coddling is more important to her than the actual sex act. Not that she doesn't like to orgasm but that she wants to KNOW that you love her more than the sex act itself. Hug her and cuddle her and you'll most likely get what you want later.

The most important way to show your love is through your acceptance and validation. Are you the kind of guy that discounts his wife's choices, desires, and needs through invalidation? This kind of behavior will cause all kinds of trouble in the marriage. Let me tell you why.

By invalidating your wife in whatever manner, you have essentially rejected her. She will feel as if her opinions, decisions, and beliefs don't count and shouldn't be regarded with importance. She will hold this within her consciousness and it will come back to haunt you later on in the marriage. This won't be on purpose but mostly because you have hurt her. She loves you and when you invalidate her feelings, thoughts, actions, beliefs, views, and opinions, she gets hurt!

Let me tell you a big secret about woman, which also includes your wife. Your wife may ask you for your opinion on something because it is in her nature to get a second opinion but that does not necessarily mean that she will go with your opinion or your opposing viewpoint.

I'm not talking about the submission thing here either. What I'm talking about is just everyday thoughts and actions of your wife. If for some reason you really feel that it is best that you disagree with her thoughts and feelings, do so AFTER you have said something positive about the way she thinks and feels. Be understanding! If you actually validate her she will see it your way on her own, even if she won't admit it.

Your wife may also like to vent her feelings more then you, not because she needs for you to find a solution so much as just being a sounding board. Give her validation in what she has to say, and then ask her if she is looking for an opinion and or solution first before giving her one. This doesn't make much sense to you, but to us women it makes a lot of sense.

~How A Wife Should Love Her Husband~

It is my firm belief that it is easier to make a man happy than for a man to make a woman happy. I believe this because men really don't ask for much. If they can camp out on the hard ground with the ants and other bugs how hard can they be to please? Yes, I know this sounds superficial but think about this for a moment. Have you noticed how much happier, and less stressed out your man is when he has his two most important needs met, sex and food?

It is also semi-true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. They love to eat and they love to eat good tasty meals. When their stomachs are full, and they have been taken care of physically, a man doesn't ask for much else.

Don't forget, the home is a man's castle. Knowing this, make every effort to keep his castle tidy and free of stressful situations that could upset his equilibrium. He has worked all day long and wants to come home to a loving and sweet wife, not a grouch and a TV dinner

Be appreciative of every little thing your man does around the house. Make your man feel like a man by being a woman. Give him a hug and a kiss where it counts, talk about your day together. Don't reject your husband sexually. Make him feel good about himself by telling him so. Respect him for who he is and what he does!

Basically, a woman needs validated and intimacy, and a man needs sex and good food. Find ways in which you can give of your self in the marriage by being more loving in these areas.

And men, after you have shown your wife how much you love her, then you can buy her the chocolates and flowers.

Angie Lewis has written five books on how to have a happy marriage. In her books she offers marriage tips, tools, techniques, and wisdom filled answers for you to apply in your marriage. From issues such as adultery, addiction, pornography, emotions, beliefs, forgiveness, communication and submission - it's all here!

Angie's latest book ADULTERY PANDEMIC is about the prevalence of infidelity among the Christian community and what you can do to protect yourself and marriage. If you or your spouse have been unfaithful, this book will give you the spiritual insight and wisdom to overcome this devastating battle to heal yourself and restore your marriage.

Author: ANGIE LEWIS

Romancing Your Wife

2009-03-02T08:19:00.000-08:00

Guys, let’s face it. Some of us have a long way to go in the romance department. We know our wife wants it, we know we’re supposed to do it, but it just doesn’t come naturally to us.

When we first begin to court a woman, our step is lighter and our inner Romeo is unleashed. Driven to win her heart, romantic creativity seems to flow easily. Every day is a new surprise: flowers, candies, love notes and dates. However, when “I want to marry this woman” turns into “We’re married for life,” we often settle into a nice, comfortable rut. The stretches between our romantic efforts grow longer and longer, until we rely on Hallmark’s annual reminder that it’s Valentine’s Day.

I remember the night I realized that I had been dropping the romance ball. It was almost midnight, and my wife suddenly remembered she’d forgotten to buy some string licorice, which she needed the next morning for Sunday school. She asked me if I’d go out to the store to get some for her. So I dutifully headed off to our local Mac’s store. Unfortunately, they didn’t have what I was looking for, so I drove home preparing to tell her that she was going to have to think of something else to use.

Then it struck me, like a lightning bolt out of the clear blue sky. When we were first dating, I wouldn’t have given up so easily. When my damsel was in distress, I alone stood to save her! Back then I would have stayed up all night if necessary, checking every store in town for string licorice!

In a moment of romantic bliss I turned the car around and headed for another store, then another, and another. I was love-struck once again. Thankfully it didn’t take me all night – just 45 minutes. It was a small price to pay to show my wife that she was loved.

And that’s what romance is really all about. When men think of romance, we often connect it to the desired end result - sex. It could be because we’re often told, “If you would only romance me more…” Nevertheless, end result shouldn’t be our focus. Romance is often little more than making my wife smile.

We also mistakenly think that romance always requires a five-star production. We picture hours of elaborate and expensive preparations for an event that she will never forget. But sometimes simple is better than complex, and the element of surprise can be our greatest ally. Our wives want to feel cherished for who they are and thought of when they feel they’ve been forgotten. They want to be noticed, pampered, listened to and, more than anything, fed mounds of luscious chocolate. Actually, what they really want is just to be shown a little appreciation.

Maybe you want to romance your wife, but your stockpile of ideas is running low. If you’re looking for something other than dinner and a movie, here are a few ideas to get you started.

1. Flower power - Now, you may be thinking, “Flowers? I thought you said this was going to be creative!” Well, hold on there. You may have done the flower thing before, but an old idea can be given new life. The next time you buy your wife flowers, think outside the box. Most florists sell small glass vases for one or two dollars. Buy a dozen or so roses, and the same number of vases. Put one rose in each vase, and hide them all over the house – in the kitchen, the laundry room, the bathroom, the closet, the bedroom. Then attach a pink paper heart to each one, telling her something you appreciate about her – something like, “I really appreciate the way you do my laundry every week.” Put a note on the front door saying, “You are now entering the Romance Zone - Heart Hats required!” Then get out of the house and allow her to discover it on her own!

2. Quotes for your queen - A picture may be worth a thousand words, but a thousand words can paint quite a picture! Enter “love quotes” or “romance quotes” into an Internet search engine. Print out the best thoughts of romantics down through the ages, and cut them out individually. Then tape them all over the house for your beloved to find (this idea will also go over big with your daughters). Sometimes, the best way to express our heart is by borrowing somebody else’s words. On the other hand…

3. Roses are red, violets are blue - Why not try to write your own poetic masterpiece? Now wait, before you laugh, realize that your poetry does not have to compare favourably to Ralph Waldo Emerson for you to be able to do this. Remember that whole, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” thing. What you think is the world’s worst poem could have your wife praising you as a literary genius, simply because you cared enough to express your love in this way. So dust off your quill pen and start writing!

4. A song in your heart - If you’re anything like me, you may have a lot of singing in you but it just doesn’t seem to come out very well. Find one of those instant recording studios at the mall and record her favourite song. Gather some of your buddies together, call yourselves the Love Connection or some other romantic name, and sing the song. Alternatively, buy an album with your old dating music on it and play it before you take her out for dinner, or end the night with a dance in the middle of your ballroom (I mean, living room).

5. Why reinvent the wheel? - Leave a message on the answering machine, “I just called to tell you I appreciate you and wanted to say I love you.” Send her an e-mail message, referring her to a web site that has a poem or love song you like. Or how about digging out one of those old love letters you wrote her and resending it via the mail, with a “P.S. I still feel this way” added at the bottom.

6. The perfect picnic - One day at lunch, pick up her favourite food: Chinese take-out, pizza, sushi, an all desert buffet - whatever she likes. Bring it home and slip it into a picnic basket. Lay out a blanket on your living room floor, maybe even in front of a crackling fire, and enjoy a romantic meal for two.

7. Heart attack - About a week ahead of time, send her an e-mail that says, “Beware: the King of Hearts is going to strike.” Buy a huge bag of red cinnamon hearts, chocolate hearts, plastic hearts or paper hearts - as many different types as you can find. Hide them everywhere you can think of: in her drawers, her purse, her cupboards and her pockets. When she opens her wallet at the grocery store, hearts fall out. When she lowers the sun visor in her car, hearts rain down on her. The more bothersome the better (without seriously inconveniencing her, of course)! Actually, inconvenience may be a good thing!

8. All-inclusive dinners - If you want to give your wife a fabulous evening out, but you feel overwhelmed by planning all the details, consider an all-inclusive dinner offered by many hotels and restaurants (especially around Valentine’s Day). You pay one price, covering dinner, wine, dessert, and a pair of tickets to the theatre or a sporting event (note: if you’re trying to make your wife smile, only take her to a sporting event if she actually likes sports!). This is an easy way to plan an elaborate, memorable evening together.

As I have done the unexpected things I wouldn’t normally do to express my feelings to my wife, I’ve discovered how much fun it actually is to surprise someone. Even more importantly, as I have set up some of these things, I have been reminded how much I still love my wife. Above all, remember that romance is spelled E-F-F-O-R-T. It is fun, but it is also work. Take the time to study your wife; get a masters degree in pleasing her. Learn what it is that sets her heart fluttering, and then get to it!

100 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife HER Way

2009-03-01T22:12:00.000-08:00

Discuss this list with your wife. Ask her to check the ones meaningful to her, and then have her arrange them in the order she considers important. Use this list to learn what speaks “love” to her. It’s most likely very different from what speaks “love” to you.

1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.
2. Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.
3. Communicate with her instead of shutting her out or talking AT her.
4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.
5. Complement her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.
6. Show interest in her friends and give her time to be with them.
7. Do something active together to lift her spirit —even taking a walk hand-in-hand.
8. Express to her that you need and value her.
9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it.
10. Find something that makes you laugh together.
11. Avoid making sudden changes without discussing them with her first.
12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.
13. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.
14. Show interest in what she values as important in life.
15. When you correct her do it gently and tenderly—speaking the truth in LOVE.
16. Allow her to teach you things without being defensive.
17. Spend special time with her and with the children.
18. Show her that she matters more to you than any activity you could do, or any one you could be with, that somehow threatens her sense of security in your marriage.
19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.
20. Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together.
21. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.
22. Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward).
23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.
24. Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven).
25. Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas life.
26. Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with her—not taking her for granted.
27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that!
28. Defend her to others—especially to your family.
29. Don’t belittle her intelligence.
30. Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her neck—whatever she’d prefer.
31. Get up in the middle of the night (and let her stay in bed) taking care of your distressed child.
32. Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.
33. When you’ve been apart for a time and she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” — actually give her some details.
34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.
35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
36. Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.
38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.
39. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention whenever possible.
40. Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.
41. Specifically tell her what you appreciate about what she does for you and the family.
42. Be helpful and cooperative, both before, and during the time you have other people over to your home. (If you’re not sure what to do, just say to your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)
43. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.
45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.
47. Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.
48. Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.
49. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
50. Be an involved partner and father in helping her with the children.
51. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.
52. Be supportive. Help her to finish her education and goals that are important to her.
53. View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”
54. Run errands without complaining.
55. Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.
56. Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.
57. Sit close to her —even when you are just watching television.
58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
59. Show her you are her marital partner by not making plans without her knowing and agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise for her).
60. Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
61. Make sure you treat her as a woman of intelligence.
62. Surprise her by asking her to give you a list of 3 things she’d like done around the house within the next month. And then make it your goal to do them.
63. Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
64. Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
65. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).
66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
67. Keep yourself in as good of shape as is reasonable so she’s proud to be with you.
68. Make it a point to write a mission statement together for your marriage and family.
69. Take the time to touch every day—even if it’s only for a minute or two.
70. Be polite and kind. (Often we’re kinder to strangers than we are to our spouse.)
71. Be sensitive enough to ask her if you offend or hurt her sexually in any way.
72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over everyone else.
73. Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.
74. Continue to court her. You dated her before you married which helped you to fall in love, now date her to STAY in love.
75. Be careful to choose your words, especially when angry.
76. Show affection for her in front of friends.
77. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.
78. Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
79. Make sure she has money each paycheck to spend any way she would choose.
80. Hold her close and vocally express your love and care for her when she is hurt, discouraged, or burdened.
81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).
83. Don’t tease and belittle her, saying “I was just joking” when she doesn’t find it funny.
84. Allow her to express herself freely, without fear of being called illogical or dumb.
85. Don’t forget to hold her hand in public like you used to when you dated her.
86. Don’t criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity in tact.
87. Don’t focus on the physical features of another woman (because, whether you understand her reasoning or not, that can make your wife feel dishonored).
88. Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.
90. Fix dinner for her sometimes.
91. Be sympathetic when she’s sick—and help her however you can.
92. Let her sleep in once in a while and you get the children ready for the day.
93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
94. Don’t ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.
95. Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she’s wanted done.
96. Tell her (and show her) you love her often.
97. Buy her what she would consider to be an intimate and loving gift.
98. Surprise her by suggesting you go to a marriage seminar or weekend retreat together to draw even closer in your marital relationship.
99. Express your love and appreciation for her in a love note which you give to her.
100. Show her affection without sexual intentions.

Top 10 list of ways to honor and love your wife in the day-to-day

2009-02-28T22:23:00.000-08:00

1. Pray for her and ask her how you can help her grow in her individual relationship with God, including areas that don't directly benefit you.

2. Not all loving touch needs to lead to intercourse. Our wives need to know that there are times when we are holding them because we love them and not because we are looking forward to our own pleasure.

3. If she is trying to improve herself, take note and encourage her, but make sure you don't suggest that you'll love her more after she improves herself.

4. If you are going out, offer to run errands for her while you are out. If she is going out, ask if there are things you can do around the house while she is gone.

5. Encourage her time with other women, who understand what it means to be a woman, and can affirm her femininity in ways that only women can.

6. Let the things that matter to her matter to you. If she roots for a particular team, root with her. If she does cross-stitch, pick out designs that you'd like to see, and maybe even ask her to teach you how.

7. Let pleasing her be enough to please you. Do things pleasing to her because you love her and not just so she'll return the favor.

8. When she has a problem, realize that she may not be asking you to solve the problem but just to listen and let her know she's not facing it alone.

9. When she's troubled by something, even if you think it's nothing, remember that it is real to her and be supportive.

10. Give small gifts even when it's not her birthday. When you go to the store, pick up a rose. If she likes crafts, pick up some thread. It doesn't need to be big, but it says she was in your thoughts while you were apart.

How to Love Your Wife

2009-02-28T09:37:00.000-08:00

When you are married, you truly do become one. If you do not act as one, then that is against the nature of marriage and it will be painful. The following is logical deduction of the husband's part of the equation, the equation being 100% + 100% = 100%. Please read all the way to the bottom and I am sure you will count yourself blessed.

Step 1. Love: First let’s preface this ‘How To’ with an understanding of Love. There is Love, the emotion, and there is Love, the action. “He who loves his wife loves himself”. This is the emotion. Most do not have to choose to love themselves, rather they have just grown quite attached to themselves and sincerely do not wish to do harm to themselves. In fact, they would do anything to avoid it. When Paul writes to love your wife in this way, he means that in every situation you should desire that no harm befall your wife.

Step 2. Here is the action, the command. “Love your wives”; give yourself up for her. The command to love means to do love. What would make others see love in what you do, that would make your wife feel love, is how you do love. In simplest form, bring her flowers and tell her, “I love you." That’s just a start though. You are also commanded to give yourself up for her. The obvious implication is that you should be willing to die for her. This is actually common. What is more difficult than dying? Give your life for her. In all you do, do it with the interests of your wife in mind.

Step 3. Forgiveness and Radiance: Have a heart for your wife. This again is the emotion of love. “Make her holy, cleansing her”. “Present her…without stain or wrinkle”. When your wife is in need of it, cleanse her; forgive her, when she acts against you. For example, you ask your wife to get you steak at the store and you get mad because she says that you eat too much red meat. Forgive and forget. Don’t allow yourself to harbor any bitterness and you will feel the love for your wife.

Step 4. The Head: Many people read this section first and stop. “Wives submit to your husbands” . And then they stop there. There is a whole other study for the wives. The implication in this passage is that if the man truly loves his wife (that’s the action and the emotion), the wife will gladly submit to the man.

Step 5. Application:
1) Don’t harbor bitterness and you will be happier.
2) Consider your wife’s best interests throughout the day and your wife will be happier.
3) A happy wife really is a happy husband.

Creditted to Anthony Delgado.

The Role and Responsibilities of a Husband

2009-02-24T23:55:00.000-08:00

1. To be a leader.

The husband is to be a prophet, priest and king to his wife. The husband is the leader and head of the household. As the leader and the head, men are called to have vision and to provide direction. Why is the man called to be the head? On the head, lie the eyes. The purpose of the eyes is to see far and near, to see ahead with vision. When God created the world, He created the man first and God gave man the responsibility of work to look after the garden and the animals. God left man with the accountability and command not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil before God created woman.

However, since sin entered the world through Adam, men began to fall away from God. Today, men are so busy working. They do not have time to pray. They do not have time to serve in the church. They do not have time to read the bible. They do not have time to provide spiritual food to their wives and children. How then is the man going to fulfil his role as the priest and king to his wife?

As the priest, the role is to lead the people of God into the presence of God. As the priest to your wife, your responsibility is to provide spiritual food and guidance to your wife, and to lead her into the spiritual presence of God.

A king always carries himself with dignity and authority. He is supposed to lead like the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit leads God's people. He does not drive or push the people to meet God's goals. The king rules the kingdom wisely and reigns among his people.

2. To love his wife.

A wise and loving king will put his kingdom and people first before himself. Similarly, as the husband, you are to lead your wife and family but not by force or by thumbing your wife down. A wise and loving husband will govern his household wisely and reigns. His family will respect him and obey him as he puts his wife and family first before himself. A husband must love his wife, be willing to give of yourself and lay down your life for your wife.

Every time we backslide or sin, we grieve God. But He never gives up on us. He saddles us with His love and lovingly holds us in His arms. God remains faithful even if we are unfaithful. In every way, the husband is to be like Jesus who loves the church and gave of Himself for our salvation. In the same way, the husband is to love his wife and give of himself to her.

5 Ways to Love The Woman You Married

2009-02-23T00:52:00.001-08:00

Listen to Your Wife

Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions. That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

Appreciate Your Wife

When was the last time you told your wife how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does? A woman puts out a lot more energy into the home and family affairs than the husband does. Sometimes she may feel as if she is the only one doing anything around the house and this is when she starts getting bossy and naggy with you.

I encourage you husband’s to start appreciating your wife for all that she does for you and the family. Marriage can be such a beautiful relationship when you show your love with wisdom. Stop just for a moment, and mediate on the beautiful woman you married. Be thankful that God gave her to you. Realize how blessed you are to have this woman as your wife and know that she is your right arm and sometimes your left arm too. Make your wife feel good about who she is and all that she does.

Please Your Wife Sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sex is a one sided selfish act that is mostly enjoyed by the husband. Women need a bit more pampering and nurturing in the bedroom. I mean, what does a woman get out of five minutes of copulation? Okay, so it takes a little bit more time to please your wife and you’re tired, so make love in the afternoon or early morning. You do have options. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. For instance, she isn’t the only one who eats dinner you know. Maybe she would like some help chopping up vegetables, setting the table, or loading the dishwasher. She probably has mowed your yard for you, so give back in return and do some extra things for her around the house. She will be pleased that you did.

Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman. Did you know that your wife becomes bossy and domineering because you are not listening to her? She feels unloved and unneeded by you when you take her for granted instead of appreciating all that she does for you and the family? A woman needs to be valued by her husband. This gives her more love to give to you.

If you want a humble and kind wife then don’t behave as if you are better than her. Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. Don’t be afraid to let down your guard once in awhile. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, humble and kind wife, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. She needs to be her own person. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence. Be a good example and she will want to surrender her love to that example. Love your wife with wisdom.

Tell Your Wife - You are My Best Friend

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Women find their meaning in relationships and relating to others. That includes feelings of love, joy, being connected, and celebrating life. As a husband, you can learn much from your wife about a strong, loving connection.

A fine dinner and night on the town are wonderful ways to connect with your wife. But a romantic love letter -- ah, a personal love letter to your spouse is something that is kept and treasured. A life coach once told me that she worked as a chaplain with retired, rich people in their eighties who needed to move into a retirement community. They had to sell their large homes, sell or give away most of their material goods to move into a small one-room apartment. Guess what things they kept? Photos and letters. Personal memories of the best times that life had to offer. Precious treasures that money can not buy.

Encouraging words carry tremendous, positive energy that continues to touch the hearts and minds of people decades after they are said or written. It's been said a handwritten love letter carries its own power because it is personal -- written by the hand of one person who loves another.

So, if you desire to build an even stronger married relationship with your wife, tell her exactly what she is longing to her, that she is your best friend. Do you want to know how to write a love letter that will bring a smile to her lips, a tear to her eye and a prayer of gratitude that she is married to you?

Start with a notepad and jot down a few ideas of what your wife means to you. Does she have a sense of humor or a smile that knocks your socks off? How is she beautiful? How does it feel to you when she touches you and you touch her? How do you feel when she does all of those little things that save you time and aggravation? How do you feel when you go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning seeing her next to you, day after day, month after month, year after year?

Once you have those thoughts on paper, let them sit for a few hours or a day. Then, go back and circle or highlight the phrases and sentences that mean the most to you. If you feel a tug at your heart strings, or a tear forms in your eye, that is truth ringing through. Next, get a nice greeting card or sheet of stationery and write out your love letter. Here is an example.

My dearest Mary, You are my best friend. Every day when I wake up, I look over and see you sleeping securely and safely next to me. I am grateful for your (here is where you list the phrases from your notepad - smile, generous spirit, thoughtfulness to me and the children, etc.) I am so glad I married you. Today and always. Love, (your name.) Let your wife know how much you treasure her.

Let you and your wife keep living in a happy marriage...Descripe 101% your meaningfull love to her...Yor wife@your best friend.

When Your Wife is Ill and Romance Ain't Happening

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When your wife is chronically ill it can be hard for her to think "romance." She may be in a great deal of physical pain or also suffer from side effects of the illness or medications, such as weight gain or loss, a "puffy prednisone," or even feeling sick to her stomach. She may also be dealing with the loss of her career and dealing with grief.

Be assured that you are not alone. Nearly 1 in 2 people in the USA live with a chronic illness and so many marriages are impacted. Unfortunately, nearly seventy-five percent of them end in divorce when an illness is that "third party" in the marriage.

Is it possible for you to make a difference and let her know you want to romance her? Of course! With a few simple ideas, you can get the spark back into your marriage.

Go ahead and buy her that box of chocolate, but if she is watching her weight, don't ruin her diet. Instead find some Russell Stover's sugar free chocolate at your local Target or even the pharmacy. Chocolate, along with coconut, pecans, and many more, all contain phenyl ethylamine, a chemical that produces the feeling of "being in love." Good place to start, don't you think?

Be affectionate by simply reaching for her hand. Yes, I know you're hoping for more than holding hands, but if she's in physical pain it's going to take some real romance on your part to distract her from pain and get her refocused on you. Rub her back (gently!), cuddle, snuggle and don't pressure her for more. Pretty soon she'll be reaching out to you.

Pour out your heart about how much you admire the strength she shows in the darkest moments. Let her know you know that living with illness is difficult and that you are blessed to be married to someone with so much character and joy. Remind her that you love her and are in it "in sickness and in health."

Pamper her by purchasing her something that she wouldn't splurge on for herself. Let her know you are listening to her by purchasing a CD that she says has one of her favorite news songs on it. Buy her a down comforter for a cozier bed. Brainstorm about item that she could enjoy when she isn't feeling well.

Schedule a retreat for her at home. Find care for the kids, bring home dinner, and don't say anything when you come home at 6 p.m. and she's still in her pajamas.

Write little notes that she can find any time. And don't forget to say thanks too! For example, if she does laundry, put a note in your own sock drawer to find when she puts them away that says, "I know laundry isn't easy for you to do. Every time I find clean socks here I am reminded how much you love me and how blessed I am."

Being romantic at home isn't hard. Purchase a fondue pot and tell her that you will bring home something to dip every Wednesday night so you two can sit and have a conversation over candlelight (and cheese, chocolate, marshmallow, etc.)

Are you having troubles starting up some romantic conversations? Buy a book about conversation starters or fill a jar with topics. Do a search online for "romantic conversation starters."

Don't forget to make a few changes in the bedroom to spark some romance. As silly as it sounds, candles, roses, and a great play list on your ipod tells her that you cared enough to set the mood for her.

It's no surprise that women are complicated beings and rarely can you read her mind to know exactly what she needs and when she needs it. So be sure to just ask her outright. "What is on your mind most these days? How can I help you around the house more? What can I do to communicate just how much I love you?"

The good news is that perfection is not a requirement. Just by making the effort to increase the romance in the relationship will score you some big points. And she may not let you even have a chance to finish reading that book on romancing your wife, because if she sees you reading it, your willingness to read it may be all the romance she needs. One last piece of advice, doing the dishes or the laundry really can be the best way to your wife's heart. This is all the answer, How to love my wife.

KEEP YOUR LOVE ALIVE BY PRACTICING DEMONSTRATIONS OF LOVE EVERYDAY! CHOOSE AT LEAST ONE TIP EVERYDAY. (THE MORE THE BETTER)!

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You knew that she was special the moment you first laid eyes on her. It was a dream come true the day she said, "Yes!" Now that she belongs to you, it's easy to let your love life play second fiddle to your responsibilities. Not that you want it that way, it's just that life is so demanding. There is great news. By just taking a few moments of each day to fulfil the needs of your marriage, you and your wife can feel like newlyweds for life!

101. JUST SAY THE WORDS

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Tell your wife everyday, several times a day, that you love her.

100. TELL THE WORLD HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER

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Put a bumper sticker on your vehicle that says, "I Love My Wife," or put up a sign in your yard that says, "The Prettiest Lady In the World Lives Here."

99. GRAB A KISS WHILE WAITING

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If you're at a stop light or in a long line at the drive-through, pull your wife close and grab a kiss. (Remember, at least six seconds, although you may want to go longer)!

98. NIBBLE

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Pull your wife close and nibble her ear or lips. This will give her cold chills!

97. SPEAK IN YOUR OWN CODE

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Create a secret code word for something that only the two of you know, and say it openly in public! It's like having your own secret language!

96. MAKE A LIST OF LOVE

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Make a list of every reason that you can think of that you love your wife and post it on the refrigerator.

95. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM

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Turn on some romantic music, hold your wife close, and slow dance right in your own bedroom. Suggest lighting candles and dancing in the nude.

94. DON'T BE A WORKAHOLIC!

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(Or any other kind of "holic" for that matter). Make sure there is always time to spend with your wife and family. In a few years, the money won't matter anyway, and you just have one chance at life. Make the most of it with the ones you love; don't live with regrets.

93. BUY A SEASON PASS

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Buy season passes to the zoo or a museum. The cost will only come once a year, so if you're a little tight on money at some point, you will always have a place to go that is fun and paid for.

92. PLANT A GARDEN TOGETHER

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Whether it's a flower garden or a vegetable garden, growing things takes lots of work. Why not do it together? This will cut the work in half, and will be a great way to enjoy each other's company. Then when it's all said and done, enjoy the fruits of your labor by picking and eating the veggies, or decorating the table with the lovely flowers.

91. GET RID OF IRRITATING HABITS

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Do you have a habit that bugs your wife?Try to take the necessary measures to stop it.

90. BE THE CHEF

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Cook up a romantic meal for your wife. Even if you're not a cook, you can find something that you can make. Just follow the box or cookbook directions. Macaroni and cheese can be romantic if it comes from your heart. Just set the table with some candles and turn out the lights. What could be more romantic than eating macaroni and cheese in candlelight with an adoring husband who's tried so hard to please you?

89. BE HER BEST FRIEND

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Be there for your wife at all times and in every situation. Let her feel confident enough to share anything with you.

88. DON'T PUSH SEX

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Be considerate in the fact that sometimes your wife just won't feel like having sex. Remember, she's not rejecting you as a person if she turns you down. However, if she says no too often, try talking to her and making sure that she's not feeling insecure.

87. PROTECT HER

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Look after your wife making sure that she's not in any situations where she could be harmed physically or emotionally. This even includes verbal abuse from cantankerous family members. Always be quick to stand up for her in any given situation.

86. SHOW HUMILITY

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Don't get a big head and think that you can't be touched with a ten foot pole. You wife wants you to be confident, but don't think that you're the master of all.

85. HELP HER UNDRESS

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Help your wife with the buttons or snaps. Caress her gently as you help remove her clothing. Do it slowly, piece by piece.

84. START A HOBBY TOGETHER

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Find a hobby that you both enjoy, such as horse back riding or tennis. Do it together as often as you can to help stay close.

83. GO ON A SECOND HONEYMOON

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Remember how special your honeymoon was? Take another one, and try to make it better than the first.

82. HAVE YOUR PHOTO MADE WITH HER

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Go have a professional, up-to-date photo done of the two of you. Try romantic scenes such as a park or waterfall.

81. GIVE HER A NICKNAME

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Give her your own special name, like "Beautiful" or "Angel."

80. MAKE A JOURNAL

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Start on her birthday or Christmas and write a love note or something special to your wife everyday for a year. At the end of the year, present it to her as a gift.

79. MAKE HER LATE FOR BREAKFAST

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Wake her up by kissing her! Not only will this be a pleasant way to wake up, but she just might keep you there through breakfast!

78. REMINISCE YOUR WEDDING NIGHT

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Women like to remember special times. Bring up your wedding night and how it felt to have sex for the first time. Talk about your high school graduations or the day your kids were born.

77. BE DEVOTED TO HER HAPPINESS

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Do what you can to make your wife happy. You don't have to buy her the most expensive things or "spoil" her rotten, (though that's OK too). Usually a little goes a long way for most wives, and just giving a little attention now and then will make her feel loved and appreciated. You will find that if she's happy, she'll respond better to your needs as well.

76. CHERISH HER DIFFERENCES

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Your wife has a lot different make up than you and it shows in more ways than one. Not only in her body, but the way she thinks, or even the way she receives love are naturally just "different." Cherish these differences and don't try to change her.

75. DON'T BELITTLE HER OPINIONS

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If your wife has an opinion or an idea, thank her, and let her know that her thoughts are valuable. Don't act like her ideas are unintelligent or crazy.

74. DON'T RUSH SEX

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While the two of you are in the middle of the wonderful marital gift of sex, be careful not to rush it. Let your wife know that you're loving her, not just the moment.

73. SET UP A SLIDE SHOW

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Pick out special photo memories from the time that you were dating to the present. Create a slide show with music. This is something that you can do together and can help keep you close.

72. LOOK OUT FOR THE FUTURE

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You plan on being together for life, right? Make sure that your future will be secure. Set up a retirement fund. Also, although no one wants to think about it, we all will die one day. Take out a life insurance policy to make sure that if the worst should happen, your family will be cared for.

71. TAKE A WALK

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Go for a long walk through a park or take a moonlight stroll. Hold hands while you walk.

70. TAKE A JACUZZI BATH TOGETHER

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Jacuzzis are one of the world's most romantic inventions! Some use it for stress, some use it for... If you don't have a jacuzzi tub, check into a hotel that has a tub for two, and spend the night.

69. FLIRT WITH YOUR WIFE

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Don't stop flirting with her just because you're married. Do it now more than ever to keep that spark! Wink at her from across the room, whistle at her, or give her "that look." Watch her cheeks turn rosy.

68. PASS GAS IN THE BATHROOM

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If you must pass gas, go to the bathroom. Don't do it to annoy her, or burp at the table. It's not as funny as you think it is - as a matter of fact, it's not funny at all.

67. BE KIND AND COURTEOUS

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Treat your wife as you would expect her to treat you. Treat her with dignity and be courteous at all times.

66. ENCOURAGE HER TO FOLLOW HER DREAMS

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If your wife has dreams and goals that she would like to accomplish, be her best cheer leader. Support her as she endeavors to reach them.

65. SHOP FOR A GIFT TO SHARE

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Go shopping for something that you'll both enjoy together. Get a great CD, massage oils, or anything that you'll both like.

64. BE VERBAL WHEN MAKING LOVE

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When making love, describe aloud and in detail each thing that you do and how it makes you feel. This will greatly arouse your wife, as well as let her know that she's meeting your needs.

63. TAKE HER ON WEEKEND TRIPS

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Take your wife to a romantic resort for the weekend. If your budget's a little tight, consider checking into a hotel, even if it's local, so the two of you can get away from the familiar and just enjoy each other.

62. DON'T COMPARE HER IN A NEGATIVE WAY

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Don't say things like, "You gripe just like your Aunt Thelma." Comparison often hurts self esteem.

61. HELP OUT WHEN SHE DON'T FEEL WELL

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If your wife is sick or has just had a bad day, try helping with her household duties and with the kids. Make sure she can get plenty of rest.

60. FIND OUT WHAT HER NEEDS ARE SEXUALLY

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Your wife's sexual needs sometimes vary a great deal from yours. Find out how and where she likes to be touched, and what she expects from sex, and try to fill her needs.

59. PROVIDE SECURITY

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Let your wife feel secure in your love without worrying if you will still love her from day to day.

58. BE CLEAN AND NEAT

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Keep yourself groomed, clean, and smelling nice.

57. BE THE LEADER OF YOUR HOME

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Many wives don't want their husbands to be the leader because they dominate. But if you're a good leader, you will also serve. Home leadership is meant to be the husbands role, and if you do it right, it will take an unnecessary load off of your wife. Set reasonable guidelines and goals for your household. Ask your wife for advice too. Sometimes a woman can see things not only in the practical sense, like most men do, but she also uses her heart to even things out.

56. BE FORGIVING

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If your wife should do something that offends you, be quick to forgive. Holding hard feelings can ruin a marriage. Let her know in a heartfelt way how she made you feel, then let it go.

55. LISTEN

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Sometimes wives just need to talk - about anything. Show interest and listen to her when she talks. If she's upset, show concern. If she's happy, laugh with her. Try to pick up on clues that she may be dropping in her conversation to let you know her needs.

54. GIVE HER LOTS OF CUDDLE TIME

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Wives like to be cuddled and kissed without sex sometimes. Try sitting in front of a campfire or lay under the stars and just take your time.

53. BE FAITHFUL

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Always make sure that you're faithful to your wife in every angle. Keep your body, your eyes, and your thoughts only for her. If you are facing any temptation, remove yourself from the source. Be open with your wife about your needs so that she can be the one to fill them.

52. DON'T CORRECT HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS

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If you feel that your wife has got a little out of line or has done something that you disapprove of, it's OK to talk it over with her in private, but never jump her in front of others; especially your children. Make sure that even if you're firm, that you're loving.

51. DON'T TEASE HER TOO MUCH

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It's OK to tease now and then, but try to keep it at a minimum. Don't excessively tease her in front of others, and never tease in a degrading fashion.

50. LET HER CRY

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Every woman needs a good cry now and then; sometimes she can tell you why, and sometimes she can't. Just make sure you don't get irritated at her or make fun of her. This will just make everything worse. Take her in your arms and hold her until everything is better. This may be the very thing she needed anyway.

49. TELL HER YOU NEED HER

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Let her know that your life just wouldn't be complete if you didn't have her. Tell her that you not only want her in your life, but that you need her.

48. PROVIDE FOR HER

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Do your best to provide for your wife and family. You don't have to buy a castle, just make sure it's nice and comfortable and there's food on the table. If your wife chooses to help out that's OK, but it is your place to provide, so don't expect her to fill that role.

47. RESPECT HER

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Showing respect is another important factor in a marriage. Don't degrade her, yell at her, or misuse her.

46. WORSHIP TOGETHER

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Find time to worship and pray with your wife. Our lives our made up of three parts. Body, mind, and spirit. You need to connect in all three ways to really be close.

45. RENEW YOUR WEDDING VOWS

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Although we know that the first vows are good for life, still, taking your wife to a chapel on your anniversary, or any day, and renewing your vows will let her know that you'd marry her all over again.

44. BE HONEST

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NEVER EVER lie to your wife, even if it seems harmless. Trust is one of the most important factors in a marriage - don't break it!

43. LEAVE LOVE NOTES IN UNEXPECTED PLACES

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Try leaving love notes in odd places that she'll be sure to see, such as under windshield wipers, inside the refrigerator, inside a CD case or even on toilet paper! A good example would be to put one on the light switch that says, "You turn me on."

42. DONT ARGUE OVER FINANCES

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If money gets tight, be very careful not to argue or shift blame. Together, and in a business-like fashion, explore ways that you can pay off your debts. If things spin out of control, consider financial counseling. Your marriage is worth more than money.

41. DON'T MENTION HER WEIGHT

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No matter what size your wife may be, bringing up her weight is definitely a no no.

40. GIVE HER A NIGHT OFF

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Watch the kids while she heads out to shop for awhile. Throw in a few extra bucks so that she can buy herself something special.

39. PLAY A KISSING GAME

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Lock lips and see who can hold out the longest!

38. TAKE HER TO A ROMANTIC PLAY

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Skip the movie and head out to a theatrical play. If there's not a good romantic one showing, find one with some good, clean humor.

37. PICK HER FLOWERS

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OK, you've sent her flowers, but why not pick some wildflowers yourself? Stop the car and pick some by the roadside, then gently tuck one behind your wife's ear and kiss her neck.

36. WASH THE DISHES FOR HER

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You don't have to clean the whole house, but just doing one chore such as the dishes once in a while, or at least cleaning up after yourself, will help her out a lot.

35. CALL IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE

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Don't make your wife worry about you, or let dinner get cold. Take out 5 minutes to phone her if you see you're going to be late.

34. PLAY A GAME TOGETHER

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Bring out the board games or play a game of tennis. Playing a game together can help keep the two of you close. If she beats you, admit it. Don't say, "Oh, I just let you win."

33. GIVE HER A MASSAGE

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Grab the oil and lotion, then grab your wife! Give her a full body massage and help her relax. (Try to at least get past her shoulders before moving on to "other things)."